
A parent would reach for this book when their teenager is struggling to reconcile the idealized image of a loved one with the messy, complicated reality of that person's trauma or flaws. It is an essential read for families navigating the shadow of the military experience or for any teen who feels they are losing the person they once looked up to most. The story follows Cally, whose brother Bobby returns from Iraq changed in ways she cannot understand. As she tries to help him reclaim his former 'hero' status, she is forced to confront the difference between cinematic bravery and the quiet, painful courage required to survive everyday life. This is a gritty and honest exploration of identity and family loyalty for readers ages 14 and up. It provides a roadmap for discussing how we support those we love when they are at their most broken, making it a powerful tool for normalizing feelings of confusion, anger, and grief within a family unit.
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Sign in to write a reviewHeavy focus on PTSD, trauma, and the emotional disintegration of a family member.
Realistic teenage and military-style profanity used throughout.
Explores the ethics of keeping family secrets and what it means to be a hero.
The book deals directly with PTSD, substance abuse (alcohol), and the psychological fallout of combat. The approach is starkly realistic and secular. The resolution is not a 'fix-it' ending; it is realistic and bittersweet, emphasizing acceptance over a total cure.
A high schooler who is naturally protective of their family but feels a growing distance from a sibling or parent who has changed due to trauma, mental health struggles, or life experience.
Parents should be aware of scenes involving underage drinking and the brother's reckless behavior. The book is best read with an understanding of the impact of war on veterans. A parent might choose this after seeing their child express intense disappointment or confusion regarding a family member's behavior, or if they notice their teen trying to 'fix' a situation that is beyond their control.
Younger teens (14) will focus on the sibling relationship and the social pressures Cally faces. Older teens (17-18) will better grasp the systemic failures and the nuance of Bobby's psychological trauma.
Unlike many military-themed YA books that focus on the soldier, this story focuses on the 'hero-worshiper' and the painful, necessary process of deconstructing our idols.
Cally has spent years worshiping her older brother Bobby, the local legend who went off to fight in Iraq. When he finally returns home, he is not the confident hero she remembers. He is erratic, heavy-drinking, and emotionally distant. Cally tries to stage a grand 'badass' adventure to spark his old spirit, but the plan backfires, forcing her to see the devastating reality of his PTSD and the myth of the 'action hero.'
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