
Reach for this book when your older child is feeling overlooked or frustrated by the arrival of a new baby. It is specifically designed to bolster the self-esteem of a toddler or preschooler who is navigating the shift from being the center of attention to becoming a big sister. Through interactive lift the flap illustrations, the book highlights the many things a big girl can do that a baby cannot, from using the potty to eating with a fork. The story focuses on themes of pride and personal growth, reframing the new sibling dynamic as a hierarchy of competence rather than a competition for love. It is perfect for children aged 1 to 4 who are in the midst of potty training or transitioning to a big bed. By celebrating these milestones, the book helps children find their new identity as a capable leader in the family, ultimately fostering a sense of protective affection toward the baby.
The book is entirely secular and grounded in realistic, domestic life. It avoids the negative emotions often associated with new siblings, such as anger or regression, focusing instead on a hopeful and pride-filled resolution.
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Sign in to write a reviewA 2 or 3 year old girl who is showing signs of jealousy toward a new infant or who is currently working through her own milestones like potty training or moving to a toddler bed.
This book can be read cold. Parents should be prepared to pause and celebrate if their child has recently mastered one of the specific skills shown, like using a fork or reading a book. A parent might choose this after hearing their toddler say, I want to be a baby too, or witnessing the child try to climb back into a crib or use a pacifier again.
Younger toddlers will enjoy the physical interaction of the flaps and identifying familiar objects. Older children (3 to 4) will internalize the ego boosting message of being more capable than the baby.
Unlike many new sibling books that focus on the labor of helping or the sadness of sharing, Katz focuses entirely on the child's own autonomy and growth as a source of joy.
The book uses a comparative structure to contrast a baby's limited abilities with an older sister's accomplishments. On each page, a flap hides the big sister performing a task, such as using a potty, eating solid food, or riding a tricycle, while the text explains that the baby is still too small for these activities.
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