For a child adjusting to a new baby sibling while also navigating the complexities of a first long-distance relationship, this book offers relatable humor and emotional depth.
A parent might reach for this book when their preteen is struggling with the news of a new baby, feeling displaced, and simultaneously navigating the confusing world of first crushes. Bingo Brown, Gypsy Lover follows a sixth-grade boy as he confronts two major life upheavals: his girlfriend has moved away, and his mother is pregnant. Author Betsy Byars masterfully captures the humorous, anxious, and deeply philosophical internal monologue of a boy trying to understand his changing family and his own identity. The book is perfect for ages 10 to 13, offering a gentle, funny, and relatable lens through which to view jealousy, love, and the anxieties of growing up. It's an excellent choice to normalize these big feelings and open a conversation.
The core topics are the emotional upheaval of a new sibling and the innocence of a first romantic relationship. The approach is direct, secular, and character-focused, using humor to explore Bingo's anxieties. The resolution is hopeful and realistic. Bingo doesn't solve all his problems, but he grows, adapts, and reaches a place of gentle acceptance about his expanding family and evolving relationships.
Ideal Reader
The ideal reader is a thoughtful, perhaps slightly anxious, 10 to 12 year old boy who is either anticipating a new sibling or is just beginning to experience the confusing feelings of a first crush. He may feel like his world is changing too fast and that no one understands his very big, very important feelings.
Parent Prep
No significant prep is needed. The book can be read cold. The title, "Gypsy Lover," comes from Bingo's own romantic imagination and is not used as a slur, but a parent might want to be aware of the term. The most helpful preparation is being ready to discuss the very real feelings of jealousy and displacement that Bingo experiences, reassuring their own child that such feelings are normal. A parent has just told their 11-year-old they're having a baby and is met with a surprisingly negative or withdrawn reaction. Or, they notice their child is consumed by a first crush, spending hours writing letters or messages and worrying about the relationship. The trigger is seeing their child grapple with big, new emotions and not knowing how to help them talk about it.
Age Experience
A younger reader (10-11) will likely focus on the humor of Bingo's over-the-top worries and the relatable annoyance of a new baby. An older reader (12-13) will connect more with the subtleties of Bingo's identity crisis, the challenges of maintaining a relationship, and the bittersweet nature of growing up and seeing your parents as complex people.
What Makes It Special
Unlike many books that isolate the "new sibling" trope, this story masterfully intertwines it with the equally potent drama of first love. Betsy Byars's unparalleled skill is in capturing the authentic, hilarious, and deeply philosophical internal world of a middle-grade boy. The humor is character-driven and empathetic, making Bingo's journey both funny and profoundly moving.
Read plot summary
Sixth-grader Bingo Brown is reeling from two major events. First, his girlfriend, Melissa, has moved to another state, forcing him to navigate a long-distance relationship through letters. Second, his parents have announced they are expecting a baby, which sends Bingo into a spiral of anxiety about being replaced and forgotten. He tries to manage his romantic image as a "Gypsy Lover" for Melissa while coping with his intense, often comical, feelings of jealousy and existential dread about the impending arrival of his new sibling.
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Discussion Prompts
1
Bingo has a lot of 'mixed-up' feelings about the new baby. He's worried but also curious. Why do you think he feels so many different things at once? Have you ever had mixed-up feelings about a big change?
2
Bingo tries to become a 'Gypsy Lover' to keep Melissa interested. What does he think a Gypsy Lover is, and does his plan work? Why is it sometimes hard to be yourself when you like someone?
3
Bingo worries that once the baby is born, his parents will 'close the circle' and leave him out. Was this a realistic fear? Talk about a time you were afraid of being left out.
4
How is Bingo's friendship with his buddy Billy different from his romantic relationship with Melissa? What does he get from each relationship that is important to him?
