
Reach for this book when your child is struggling with explosive reactions to small setbacks, such as a tower falling or a game lost. Blaze's Frustrated Flame provides a mirror for children who feel their anger as a physical, heat-filled force that can sometimes leave them feeling ashamed afterward. Through the relatable metaphor of a young dragon whose fire gets out of control, Emily Hartmann validates the intensity of these feelings while modeling concrete, sensory-based cooling strategies. This is a perfect choice for parents of children aged 4 to 8 who need help identifying the physical sensations of anger before they reach a boiling point.
The book deals with anger and the resulting guilt in a secular, metaphorical way. The resolution is realistic: Blaze doesn't stop feeling anger, but he learns to manage the 'flame.'
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Sign in to write a reviewA 6-year-old who is prone to 'meltdowns' over academic or social frustrations and feels like a 'bad kid' because they can't control their temper.
Read the 'Cooling the Spark' steps at the end of the book first so you can emphasize those specific actions during the read-aloud. A parent who just witnessed their child throw a toy or scream in frustration and is looking for a way to talk about the incident without being accusatory.
Preschoolers will focus on the colorful dragon and the 'big fire,' while elementary-aged children will connect with the specific social triggers and the internal feeling of heat.
Unlike many 'anger' books that focus on the behavior, this one focuses on the physiological heat of frustration, making it highly effective for children with sensory processing sensitivities.
Blaze is a young dragon who enjoys building and creating, but he lacks emotional regulation skills. When his projects fail, he experiences a 'frustrated flame' that causes him to accidentally singe his surroundings. With the guidance of an adult figure, Blaze learns to recognize the physical 'spark' of anger and uses deep breathing and sensory grounding to cool his internal temperature.
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