
A parent would reach for this book when they are concerned about a teenager's struggle with anger, controlling behavior, or a cycle of domestic conflict. It is a powerful resource for young adults who need to understand the difference between passion and obsession, or for those processing their own experiences with family violence. The story follows sixteen-year-old Nick as he undergoes court-ordered counseling and journaling after hitting his girlfriend. It explores heavy themes of shame, the legacy of abuse, and the difficult path to personal accountability. Written for ages 14 and up, this novel provides a realistic, non-judgmental mirror for boys who feel they are losing control and a cautionary guide for girls to recognize red flags in relationships.
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Sign in to write a reviewHeavy themes of isolation, shame, and the psychological impact of trauma.
Depicts a toxic and abusive relationship in detail.
The book deals directly and secularly with domestic violence, emotional abuse, and child abuse. The resolution is realistic rather than neatly happy. Nick does not 'get the girl' back, which is a vital narrative choice, but he does begin the genuine work of self-reformation.
A high school student who has exhibited early signs of 'jealousy' as a romantic trait, or a teen who has grown up in a home where one parent is intimidated by another and needs to see the cycle articulated.
Parents should preview the scenes where Nick's father physically and verbally assaults him, as these are visceral and may be triggering for some readers. It is best read with an open line of communication regarding healthy boundaries. A parent might choose this after seeing their teen son punch a wall, display extreme possessiveness, or after hearing their daughter justify a boyfriend's 'protective' but controlling behavior.
Younger teens (14) may focus on the 'drama' of the relationship, while older teens (17-18) are better equipped to analyze the psychological roots of Nick's behavior and the systemic nature of domestic violence.
Unlike many books on dating violence that focus on the victim's perspective, this novel takes the risky and effective step of placing the reader inside the head of the abuser, making his gradual realization and accountability the central focus.
The novel is structured through a court-mandated journal written by Nick Andreas, a popular high school student who has been arrested for assaulting his girlfriend, Caitlin. The narrative toggles between the present, where Nick attends a batterer's intervention group, and the past, detailing the slow escalation of his controlling behavior and the physical abuse he witnessed at the home of his wealthy but violent father.
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