
Reach for this book when your child is processing the loss of a daycare provider, neighbor, or family friend who played a daily role in their life. While many books focus on the loss of a biological grandparent, this story honors the profound bond between a child and a community caregiver, acknowledging the disruption of routine that follows such a loss. The story follows Sugar Plum as she navigates her grief after the death of Mis' Lela, the woman who watched her while her mother worked. It gently moves from the immediate sadness of a quiet house to the realization that love continues through memory. It is a secular, realistic, and deeply comforting choice for children aged 4 to 8 who need to see their feelings of loss reflected and validated.
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The book deals directly with death. The approach is realistic and secular, focusing on the emotional experience of the child rather than afterlife theology. The resolution is hopeful, focusing on the legacy of love.
A preschooler or early elementary student who has lost a non-parental caregiver, such as a beloved babysitter, a 'surrogate' grandparent, or a long-term daycare provider.
Parents should be prepared for the depiction of the 'empty chair' and the quietness of the house, which can be evocative. It can be read cold, but parents should be ready for questions about why people get old and die. A parent might choose this book after hearing their child ask, 'When is [Name] coming back?' or seeing the child struggle with a change in their daily caregiving routine due to a death.
Younger children (4-5) will focus on the change in routine and the sadness of not seeing a friend. Older children (7-8) will better grasp the concept of 'keeping memories alive' as an abstract way to maintain a connection.
This book is unique because it centers on a community caregiver relationship within an African American context, highlighting the 'village' aspect of child-rearing and the validity of grieving someone who isn't immediate family.
Sugar Plum is a young girl who is cared for by Mis' Lela, an elderly neighbor, while her mother works. Their relationship is full of warmth, small rituals, and shared snacks. When Mis' Lela dies, Sugar Plum must navigate the silence of the house and the feeling of absence. With her mother's guidance, she learns that saying goodbye is a process of holding onto the joy they shared.
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