
Reach for this book when your child is struggling with the 'there is only one right way' mindset or when a playdate has ended in tears because a friend did not follow the rules of a game. It is a gentle tool for navigating the friction that occurs when high achievers expect everyone else to meet their personal standards. Catty Jane is a talented ballerina who is so focused on technical perfection that she forgets how to be a kind friend to Froggy, whose style is more about joyful somersaults than disciplined steps. Through expressive illustrations and relatable animal characters, the story highlights how pride can inadvertently lead to excluding others. This is an ideal selection for children aged 3 to 7 who are learning to balance their own passions with the social grace of inclusion. It provides a natural opening to discuss how we can celebrate our own talents while still making room for the unique ways our friends choose to play and create.
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Sign in to write a reviewThis is a secular story that deals with social exclusion and elitism in a metaphorical way using animal characters. The resolution is hopeful and focuses on the emotional growth of the protagonist.
A 5-year-old child who is very 'by the book' and struggles with peers who are more chaotic, creative, or physically boisterous. It is perfect for the child who is the 'leader' of the playgroup and needs a soft nudge toward empathy.
This book can be read cold. The illustrations do a lot of the heavy lifting, so parents should be prepared to pause and ask what the characters' faces are saying. A parent might reach for this after hearing their child say something like, 'He's doing it wrong!' or 'I don't want to play with her because she doesn't know how to do ballet.'
Younger children (3-4) will focus on the funny animals and the physical action of the dancing. Older children (6-7) will better grasp the nuance of Catty Jane's internal shift from perfectionism to friendship.
Unlike many books that focus on the 'outsider' finding their place, this story focuses on the 'expert' learning to lower their guard. It addresses the burden of perfectionism from the perspective of the child who is already good at something.
Catty Jane is a dedicated student of ballet who prides herself on her perfect form. When her friend Froggy tries to join in with his own enthusiastic, albeit unrefined, leaps and vaults, Catty Jane dismisses him because his movements don't fit the 'proper' definition of dance. After hurting his feelings, she eventually realizes that joy and friendship are more important than technical precision, leading to a reconciliation where both styles are celebrated.
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