
A parent should reach for this book when their child is struggling with changing friendships and the pull of a new, popular crowd. Jonathan has been best friends with Paul forever, but when he joins the basketball team, he finds himself torn between his old, loyal friend and the cool kids who don't like Paul. The story thoughtfully explores the internal conflict of wanting to belong while trying to stay true to yourself. It's a perfect conversation starter for late elementary schoolers about loyalty, peer pressure, and the courage it takes to make the right choice, even when it's the hard one.
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Sign in to write a reviewThe book's central conflict revolves around social exclusion, peer pressure, and a form of subtle bullying. The approach is direct and realistic, focusing on the emotional toll these situations take. The resolution is hopeful but grounded in reality: friendships can be repaired, but they are also changed by these experiences. It is a secular story rooted in common schoolyard dynamics.
This book is for a 9 to 11 year old who is beginning to navigate complex social hierarchies. It's perfect for the child who feels caught between an old, comfortable friendship and the allure of a new, 'cooler' group, and is experiencing the confusion and guilt that comes with that loyalty test.
No specific pages require previewing. The book can be read cold as the situations are highly relatable. Parents should be prepared to discuss the subtle ways Lenny manipulates Jonathan and why the desire to be popular can be so powerful. It's a great opportunity to talk about integrity and how small compromises can lead to bigger problems. A parent sees their child excluding a longtime friend to impress new ones, or hears them say, "My new friends think my old friend is weird." The trigger is witnessing the child's struggle with social pressure and making choices that seem out of character.
A younger reader (8-9) will see a clear story about right and wrong: it's bad to leave your old friend for new ones. An older reader (10-12) will connect more deeply with Jonathan's internal turmoil. They will understand the nuances of social currency, the fear of being ostracized, and the difficulty of standing up to a charismatic leader.
Many books on this topic focus on the experience of the child being excluded. 'Choosing Sides' is unique because it is told entirely from the perspective of the child who is doing the excluding. It masterfully captures the internal conflict, guilt, and rationalization of the protagonist, making it a powerful tool for developing empathy and self-reflection in readers who might see themselves in Jonathan's difficult position.
Fifth-grader Jonathan is thrilled to make the school basketball team, which introduces him to Lenny, the popular and charismatic team captain. Jonathan has been best friends with the quiet, non-athletic Paul his whole life, but Lenny and his friends make it clear they don't approve of Paul. The story follows Jonathan's internal struggle as he is increasingly drawn into Lenny's group, enjoying the popularity but feeling immense guilt as he begins to lie to and avoid Paul to fit in. The conflict culminates in Jonathan having to make a definitive choice about what kind of friend, and person, he wants to be.
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