A parent should reach for this book when their teenager or young adult is grappling with the profound, messy reality of losing a parent to a terminal illness. Tyler Feder provides a refreshingly honest and deeply personal account of her mother's battle with cancer and the subsequent years of 'firsts' without her. While the subject is heavy, the book is infused with humor, vibrant pink-hued illustrations, and a specific focus on the mundane, weird, and even funny aspects of grief that are often left out of traditional narratives. It serves as a gentle, non-judgmental companion for any young person feeling isolated by their loss. Parents might choose this for a teen who is struggling to articulate their own grief or for one who feels 'guilty' for finding moments of joy amidst sadness. It is most appropriate for high school students and older due to the directness of the medical and emotional content, providing a safe space to normalize the complex feelings that come with a life-altering loss.
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Sign in to write a reviewDeep exploration of mourning, funeral rites, and long-term bereavement.
Includes specific Jewish mourning traditions like Shiva, which may require brief explanation.
The book deals directly and secularly with death and terminal illness. Feder does not shy away from the physical realities of chemotherapy or the visceral experience of a funeral. The resolution is realistic: she doesn't 'get over' the death, but she learns to carry it with her while finding happiness again.
A 17-year-old who feels like the 'only person in the room' whose life has been upended by tragedy and who needs a friend to tell them that their intrusive, sad, or weird thoughts are completely normal.
Parents should be aware of the 'Dos and Don'ts' section where Feder critiques common platitudes. It is helpful to read this cold to understand the raw perspective of a grieving youth. A parent might see their child withdrawing from family traditions, becoming hyper-fixated on old photos, or expressing anger that life is moving on for everyone else.
Younger teens (14) will focus on the fear of loss and the change in family dynamics. Older teens and college-age readers will connect with the specific struggle of navigating independence while mourning. DIFERENTIATOR: Unlike many 'grief books' that are overly somber or metaphorical, this uses the graphic novel format to inject specific, relatable humor and 'Pity Party' energy that makes the heavy subject matter accessible and deeply human.
Tyler Feder recounts her mother's diagnosis of late-stage ovarian cancer during Tyler's freshman year of college. The narrative follows the progression of the illness, the funeral (a Jewish Shiva), and the long, non-linear journey of living through the subsequent years of holidays, weddings, and daily life without her 'best friend' mother.
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