Bernette G. Ford's "Don't Hit Me!" is a straightforward and effective early chapter book designed to help young readers navigate the challenging emotions of anger and frustration. The story centers on two best friends whose chess game escalates into a physical altercation when one friend, overwhelmed by anger, strikes out. The narrative then shifts to the crucial lesson of using verbal communication over physical aggression, with the other friend gently reminding them to use their words. The book handles this sensitive topic directly and positively, modeling appropriate behavior for conflict resolution.
The emotional arc begins with a relatable moment of childhood frustration, moves through a brief but impactful moment of physical reaction, and then guides the characters toward a reflective and ultimately hopeful resolution. This book is particularly well-suited for children aged 4-8 who may be struggling with impulse control, anger management, or expressing their big feelings in healthy ways. Parents might reach for this book after a child has had a physical outburst with a sibling or friend, or proactively to teach essential social-emotional skills.
There are no overtly scary or intense scenes that require extensive parent preparation, but it's an excellent opportunity for parents to discuss the characters' feelings and brainstorm alternative reactions. Younger readers will easily grasp the core message of "words, not fists," while slightly older children (7-8) can delve deeper into the nuances of identifying triggers and practicing different communication strategies. The inclusion of activity ideas for parents and children sets this book apart, offering practical tools to extend the learning beyond the story itself and reinforce positive behaviors in real-life situations.
