Reach for this book when your child is struggling with the messy reality of a new sibling, especially one through adoption or foster care, and is feeling more frustration than 'brotherly love.' It validates the complicated emotions that arise when a new family member doesn't immediately fit the dream of a perfect playmate. Emma is excited to adopt four-year-old Max, but she soon discovers that he is loud, messy, and 'yucky.' The story beautifully handles themes of patience, empathy, and the slow process of building trust. It is a perfect choice for parents who want to normalize a child's negative feelings toward a sibling while showing that these feelings don't mean they won't eventually bond. This realistic take on family expansion helps children understand that love is a choice and a practice, not just an instant feeling.
The book deals directly with the adoption of an older child. It is secular and realistic, focusing on the behavioral and emotional adjustments of both the biological child and the adopted child. The resolution is hopeful but grounded: they aren't 'best friends' yet, but they are a family.
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Sign in to write a reviewAn elementary schooler (ages 5 to 7) who is experiencing 'sibling shock' after a new brother or sister joins the home, particularly a child who is struggling with the fact that the new sibling requires more attention or has behavioral challenges.
The book can be read cold, but parents should be prepared to discuss why Max might be acting out (scared, new environment) to help the child reader develop the same empathy Emma does. A child saying 'I hate him,' 'Can we send him back?', or 'He's ruining everything.'
Younger children (4-5) will focus on the slapstick 'yucky' behaviors of Max. Older children (7-8) will better grasp the emotional weight of Emma's rejection and the importance of her eventual change of heart.
Unlike many 'new baby' books that are sugary sweet, this book is refreshingly honest about the dislike a child can feel for a new sibling. It specifically highlights the unique dynamics of adopting an older child rather than an infant.
Emma is thrilled that her family is adopting a four-year-old boy named Max. However, the reality of a younger brother is far from her expectations. Max is difficult, messes up her things, and doesn't seem to like her back. Emma declares him 'yucky' and feels regret, but through a series of small, realistic interactions, she begins to understand Max's perspective and learns that building a family takes time and patience.
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