
A parent would reach for this book when their child is experiencing the heavy, confusing stages of grief following the loss of a loved one. Lucille Clifton uses gentle, rhythmic verse to walk through the five stages of grief through the eyes of young Everett Anderson, who is mourning the death of his father. Rather than providing a quick fix, it validates the messy feelings of anger and denial that children often feel but cannot name. It is a profoundly empathetic choice for children ages 4 to 8, offering a soft landing spot for difficult conversations. Parents will find it a supportive tool to show their children that their big feelings are a natural part of saying goodbye and that hope eventually follows the hurt.
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Sign in to write a reviewThe book deals directly with the death of a parent. The approach is realistic and secular, focusing entirely on the internal emotional experience of the child rather than religious explanations or the mechanics of death. The resolution is hopeful but grounded in reality: Everett reaches a place of quiet acceptance.
An elementary schooler who has recently lost a parent or close relative and is acting out or withdrawing. It is especially suited for a child who needs to see their own complicated, non-linear feelings reflected back at them.
This book is best read in a quiet, one-on-one setting. While it can be read cold, parents should be prepared for the child to stop and ask questions or express their own sadness during the 'Anger' and 'Depression' sections. A parent might notice their child insisting that the lost loved one is 'just on a trip' or witnessing a sudden, uncharacteristic outburst of anger during a mundane task.
Younger children (4-5) will connect with the simple imagery and the reassurance of the mother's presence. Older children (7-8) will better grasp the transition between the stages of grief and the concept of emotional processing.
Unlike many books on death that use animal metaphors, this uses a realistic human protagonist and specific poetic structures to validate the specific, uncomfortable stages of grief.
The story follows young Everett Anderson as he moves through the classic stages of grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance) after his father's death. Each short, poetic segment captures a specific mood as Everett navigates his quiet apartment and his changing emotional landscape.
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