Reach for this book when your teenager is facing a major life transition, such as moving from a protected environment into the social complexities of public school, or when they are beginning to quietly question their own identity. Ham's journey from being a homeschooled minister's son to an eighth grader navigating the hallways of public school provides a safe space for teens to process the anxiety of fitting in while staying true to their upbringing. The story centers on the delicate balance between family loyalty, religious expectations, and the personal discovery of one's orientation. Parents will appreciate the book's nuanced approach to faith and family dynamics. While it touches on the confusion of a first crush, it maintains a realistic and grounded tone suitable for middle and high schoolers. It is an excellent choice for fostering empathy and opening a dialogue about the pressures of peer groups and the courage it takes to be oneself in a new environment.
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Sign in to write a reviewThemes of loneliness and the fear of not being accepted by family.
Occasional mild realistic middle school dialogue.
The book addresses LGBTQ+ identity and religious expectations with a direct, realistic approach. It is secular in its storytelling but deeply respectful of the religious framework Ham lives within. The resolution is realistic and hopeful, focusing on personal growth rather than a tidy, perfect ending.
A 13 to 15 year old who feels like an outsider, perhaps due to a unique educational background or a private struggle with their identity, who needs to see a protagonist navigate those worlds simultaneously.
Parents should be aware of scenes involving peer pressure and the internal monologue regarding same-sex attraction. It can be read cold, but it is better if the parent is ready to discuss how faith and identity can coexist. A parent might notice their child becoming increasingly withdrawn after starting a new school, or perhaps hearing their child express fear that their true self won't be accepted by their church or family.
Younger teens (13) will focus on the 'new school' jitters and the desire for friendship. Older teens (16+) will connect more deeply with the nuance of the father-son relationship and the complexities of coming out in a religious household.
Unlike many 'coming out' stories that feature immediate rejection or total secularization, this book explores the specific, quiet middle ground of a protagonist who loves his religious family but must still find his own path.
Hamilton (Ham) has been homeschooled his entire life, but entering eighth grade brings a massive shift: public school. As the adopted son of a minister, Ham carries the weight of certain expectations, which collide with the messy reality of middle school social hierarchies. The plot follows his internal struggle as he develops feelings for a male classmate, navigating the tension between his religious background and his emerging sexual identity.
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