For teens grappling with complicated family relationships and the messy realities of first love, this book explores cynicism, heartbreak, and self-discovery.
A parent might reach for this book when their teen is navigating a difficult relationship with a parent, especially after a divorce, and is becoming cynical about love. This story follows British teen Amber, a proud feminist who believes love is a patriarchal trap. She spends the summer at a camp in California with her estranged, alcoholic mother and finds her carefully constructed beliefs challenged when she falls for a popular American boy. It tackles complex family dynamics, self-discovery, and the messiness of first love with intelligence and humor. Best for older teens, it offers a realistic look at reconciling personal ideals with confusing emotions, making it a great choice for a teen who feels let down by adults.
Contains profanity and strong language appropriate for the characters' ages and experiences.
Substance ReferencesModerate
A main character's alcoholism and its effects on the family are central plot points.
Sad ThemesModerate
Deals with parental emotional neglect, divorce, and romantic heartbreak.
Sensitive Topics
The book deals directly and realistically with parental alcoholism, emotional neglect, and the aftermath of a contentious divorce. The approach is secular and psychological. Amber's relationship with her mother does not have a fairy-tale ending; the resolution is one of fragile, realistic hope and hard-won understanding. Discussions about sex, consent, and contraception are frank and central to the plot.
Ideal Reader
A teen, 15-17 years old, who is intellectually curious and perhaps wrestling with their own feminist identity. This reader might be feeling cynical about relationships due to their own family experiences (like a difficult divorce) and needs a story that validates their anger and confusion while also offering a path toward vulnerability and hope.
Parent Prep
Parents should be prepared for profanity and frank, open discussions about teen sexuality, including virginity and contraception. The depiction of a parent's alcoholism is also a central theme. The book can be read cold, but it offers a fantastic launchpad for conversations about healthy relationships, what feminism means today, and how to love people who have hurt you. A parent hears their teen expressing sweeping, negative statements about love and relationships, such as "Love is a lie," or "All relationships are doomed." The teen might be pushing people away or struggling to connect with a parent they see infrequently or have a strained relationship with.
Age Experience
A younger reader (14-15) might be more drawn to the summer camp setting, the romance, and the classic trope of an outsider falling for a popular boy. An older teen (16-18) is more likely to appreciate the sophisticated internal monologue, the critique of romantic comedies, and the deeply layered, complicated mother-daughter relationship that forms the true emotional core of the novel.
What Makes It Special
Unlike many YA romances, this book uses a sharp, critical, feminist lens to deconstruct the very tropes it employs. Its primary uniqueness is a protagonist who is actively at war with her own romantic feelings, viewing them as a betrayal of her intellectual principles. The focus on the messy, unresolved mother-daughter relationship is just as, if not more, significant than the central romance.
Read plot summary
Amber, a core member of the feminist "Spinster Club," travels from the UK to a California summer camp to spend time with her estranged, alcoholic mother. Fiercely cynical about romance due to her parents' painful divorce, Amber is blindsided when she develops feelings for Kyle, a seemingly perfect, popular American boy. The story follows her internal battle between her feminist ideals, her protective cynicism, and her undeniable attraction, all while she navigates the deeply complicated and painful relationship with her mother.
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Discussion Prompts
1
Amber's 'inner-narrator' is very critical and cynical. Do you have an inner narrator? How does Amber's change or quiet down by the end of the book?
2
Amber feels that her feminism and her feelings for Kyle are in conflict. Do you think someone can be a strong feminist and still enjoy a traditional romance? Why or why not?
3
At the end of the summer, Amber and her mom reach a new understanding. Do you think Amber was right to forgive her? What does a 'happy ending' look like for their relationship?
4
How does the American summer camp setting, so different from her home in the UK, force Amber to see herself and her problems in a new way?
