
Reach for this book when your child is grappling with the injustice of loss and needs to see that their big, messy feelings are valid. It is perfect for children who have recently lost a grandparent and feel a desperate urge to 'fix' things or preserve a physical legacy. The story follows Kirsty as she attempts to reclaim a garden statue that symbolized her grandfather's joy, leading to a caper that is as funny as it is heartbreaking. Elen Caldecott expertly balances the heavy reality of grief with the lighthearted energy of a middle grade adventure. By focusing on Kirsty's proactive, albeit chaotic, mission, the book provides a safe space for readers aged 8 to 12 to explore sadness, sibling dynamics, and the process of saying goodbye. It is a comforting choice for families looking to normalize the erratic, often confusing stages of bereavement while keeping the mood hopeful.
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The protagonist justifies 'stealing' back an item she believes belongs to her family.
The book deals directly with the death of a grandparent and the subsequent funeral. The approach is secular and realistic, focusing on the internal emotional landscape of the child rather than religious explanations. The resolution is hopeful, moving from a desire for physical possession to an internal peace and acceptance.
A 9 or 10 year old who is typically 'the responsible one' but is currently acting out or becoming obsessed with a specific task following a family loss. It's for the child who needs to know that being angry about death is just as normal as being sad.
Read the chapters involving the funeral preparation to ensure you are ready to answer questions about what happens during a memorial service. The book is safe to read cold but may spark immediate conversations about the parent's own childhood memories. A parent may see their child fixating on a specific object belonging to the deceased, or witnessing 'grief-fueled' rebellion or secrecy among siblings.
Younger readers (8-9) will focus on the 'caper' aspect and the humor of the sibling interactions. Older readers (11-12) will better grasp the metaphor of the elephant as a heavy, unmovable burden of grief that they are trying to carry alone.
Unlike many 'grief books' that are somber and slow, this uses the structure of a heist novel to explore bereavement. It acknowledges that kids don't just sit and cry, they do things, sometimes weird things, to cope.
After the sudden death of her grandfather, Kirsty Jenkins is devastated to learn that his prized garden statue, a large stone elephant, is being taken away. Determined to honor his memory and reclaim what she feels rightfully belongs to her family, Kirsty enlists her siblings and a local boy in a daring, somewhat ill-conceived plan to steal the elephant back. The narrative follows their logistical hurdles and emotional realizations as they navigate the logistics of the heist alongside the reality of their loss.
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