
A parent would reach for this book when their teenager is struggling to set boundaries with an emotionally volatile or unreliable adult. It is a vital resource for older teens who feel they have become the 'parent' in their household and are ready to reclaim their own future. The story follows Grace, a talented seventeen year old musician who is tired of being uprooted every time her mother, Maggie, experiences a whim or a heartbreak. As Grace navigates a high stakes audition and her first real romance with a girl named Eva, she must learn that loving someone does not mean sacrificing her own stability. This contemporary novel explores the heavy weight of parentification and the transformative power of finding a chosen family. It is best suited for mature teens (ages 14 and up) due to its honest look at emotional neglect and its authentic depiction of queer identity and romance. Parents will find it a meaningful bridge for discussing independence and the realization that a parent's happiness is not a child's responsibility.
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Sign in to write a reviewIncludes kissing and moderate descriptions of intimacy between two teen girls.
Depictions of teen parties with alcohol consumption.
Some instances of profanity consistent with realistic teen fiction.
The book deals directly with emotional neglect, parentification, and grief. The approach is realistic and secular. The mother's instability is never explicitly labeled with a diagnosis, which keeps the focus on Grace's experience of the behavior. The resolution is hopeful but grounded in reality, as Grace chooses self preservation over enabling her mother.
An older teen who feels 'older than their years' because they have had to manage a parent's emotions or household. It is perfect for a reader who loves music and is looking for a thoughtful, character driven queer romance.
Parents should be aware of a few scenes involving drinking and underage parties, as well as several moderate romantic scenes between the two female leads. The book can be read cold but may spark conversations about boundaries. A parent might see their teen pulling away or expressing deep resentment about family instability or the parent's dating life. The 'trigger moment' is often the teen's realization that they are being held back by a parent's needs.
A 14 year old may focus more on the romance and the beach setting, while an 18 year old will likely resonate more deeply with the themes of leaving home and the guilt associated with outgrowing a parent.
Unlike many YA novels that focus on the 'coming out' process, this book treats Grace's sexuality as a settled fact, focusing instead on the complex, toxic mother daughter dynamic and the specific pain of parentification.
Grace is a seventeen year old girl who has spent her life being the 'grown up' for her mother, Maggie, whose impulsive nature and emotional instability keep them moving from town to town. While staying at a beach house in North Carolina, Grace meets Eva, a girl who is grieving the death of her mother. As their relationship deepens, Grace must balance her loyalty to her mother with her desire to audition for a prestigious music program and finally live a life on her own terms.
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