
A parent would reach for this book when their imaginative child is deep in a phase of pretend play, perhaps even insisting on being called a different name. In this story, a young boy named Bobby declares he is not, in fact, Bobby. His mother, instead of correcting him, joins in the game. She lovingly tries to guess who he might be: a dog, a bird, a monster? The book beautifully illustrates the dance of identity exploration common in preschoolers, wrapping it in the secure blanket of a parent's unconditional love and acceptance. It's a perfect choice for modeling how to playfully validate a child's creative self-expression, normalizing a common developmental stage with warmth and gentle humor.
The core theme is identity exploration, addressed metaphorically through a common game of pretend. The approach is entirely secular, lighthearted, and focuses on the security of the parent-child bond. The resolution is unambiguously hopeful and affirming.
A preschooler, age 3 to 5, who is deeply engaged in imaginative play and exploring different personas. This book is for the child who is testing boundaries and figuring out their sense of self in a safe, creative way, and for the parent who wants to support that exploration.
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Sign in to write a reviewNo preparation is necessary. The book is self-contained and its message is clear and direct. It can be read cold and serves as a wonderful script for parents on how to join their child's imaginative world. A parent hears their child say, "Don't call me that, I'm a unicorn!" or "I'm not your kid, I'm a superhero!" for the tenth time. The parent is seeking a way to connect with this phase rather than correct it.
A 3-year-old will delight in the repetition and the silly guesses. A 5-year-old will more deeply understand the game of identity Bobby is playing and appreciate the comforting resolution that he is loved no matter who he pretends to be.
While many books celebrate imagination, this one homes in on the specific, common act of a child rejecting their own name. Jules Feiffer's signature minimalist, expressive ink drawings put the entire focus on the characters' dialogue and emotional exchange. The book is a masterclass in validating a child's feelings through play.
A young boy named Bobby repeatedly insists to his mother, "I'm not Bobby." His mother responds not with frustration, but with a playful guessing game, suggesting he might be an animal or a monster. Bobby rejects each guess, finally declaring he is a completely different boy. His mother lovingly accepts this new identity, offering the "new boy" a hug. This act of unconditional love prompts the child to joyfully reclaim his name and identity as Bobby.
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