
Reach for this book when your teenager is navigating the high stakes of vulnerability, seeking a sense of belonging, or beginning to understand the weight of keeping secrets in order to fit in. While the story focuses on a transgender experience, its emotional core speaks to any young person who fears that being truly known will lead to being rejected. It is a powerful tool for building empathy and discussing the courage it takes to be authentic. Amanda Hardy is the new girl at a small-town high school, determined to keep her past as a boy named Andrew a secret. As she falls for the kind and easygoing Grant, she must decide if the safety of her secret is worth the cost of never being fully seen. This story offers a compassionate look at identity and first love, making it an ideal choice for older teens exploring their own selfhood or parents looking to open a dialogue about inclusion and the transgender experience. It provides a hopeful, realistic perspective on resilience.
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Sign in to write a reviewIncludes discussion of past suicidal ideation and depression.
Sweet, age-appropriate high school romance with some kissing.
Themes of transphobia and social exclusion are central to the plot.
Occasional strong language and use of outdated/harmful terms in a negative context.
The book deals directly and realistically with gender identity, transphobia, and medical transition. It includes scenes of physical assault and suicidal ideation in flashbacks. The approach is secular and deeply personal, and the resolution is ultimately hopeful and life-affirming.
A 15-year-old who feels like an outsider or is questioning their identity and needs to see a version of their life that includes romance and happiness rather than just tragedy.
Parents should be aware of a flashback scene involving a violent assault in a bathroom and mentions of a past suicide attempt. These scenes provide context for Amanda's fear and are best discussed with a supportive adult. A parent might notice their teen becoming unusually withdrawn about their social life, or perhaps the teen has expressed anxiety about how friends might react to a personal revelation.
Younger teens (14) will focus on the 'secret' and the high school romance. Older teens (17-18) will likely engage more deeply with the nuances of self-advocacy and the complexity of the father-daughter relationship.
Unlike many stories about transgender youth that focus solely on trauma, this book prioritizes Amanda's agency, her romantic life, and her right to a 'normal' future.
Amanda Hardy moves to a new town to live with her father and start fresh. After transitioning, she wants nothing more than a normal high school experience. She meets Grant, a sweet boy who challenges her defensive walls. The story follows their blossoming romance while flashing back to Amanda's difficult past, culminating in a moment where she must choose between hiding and being honest about her identity.
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