
Reach for this book when you notice your child is stuck in a cycle of comparison, whether they are feeling envious of a friend's new toy or wishing they possessed a peer's physical skill. It is a gentle antidote to the 'grass is always greener' mentality that often emerges as children become more socially aware of their surroundings. Through a series of vibrant garden encounters, each insect shares a secret wish to be someone else. The butterfly wants the privacy of a stick insect, while the stick insect wants the swimming skills of a beetle. The story circles back to show that while it is natural to admire others, there is immense value in our own unique capabilities. It is a visually stunning tool for building self-esteem and gratitude in children ages 3 to 6, helping them move from 'I wish I could' to 'I am glad I can.'
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Sign in to write a reviewThe book addresses identity and self-worth through a metaphorical lens. It is entirely secular and uses nature as a canvas for human emotions. The resolution is hopeful and empowering, encouraging children to find their own 'inner spark.'
A 4-year-old who has started saying things like 'I wish I had her hair' or 'I wish I could run as fast as him.' It is perfect for a child who is just beginning to navigate social comparison in preschool or playgroups.
This book can be read cold. The art is the star here, so parents should be prepared to linger on the pages to let the child take in the expressive, chalk-like illustrations. A parent likely just heard their child express jealousy toward a sibling or a peer, or noticed their child retreating because they feel they aren't 'good enough' at a specific task.
For a 3-year-old, this is a beautiful book about bugs and colors. For a 5 or 6-year-old, the subtext of 'the grass is always greener' becomes clear, sparking deeper conversations about what they like about themselves.
Unlike many 'be yourself' books that can feel preachy, Mies van Hout uses high-contrast, neon-on-black illustrations that feel sophisticated and artistic. The chain-link narrative structure is also more engaging than a standard linear plot.
The book follows a chain of garden creatures, from butterflies to spiders to beetles. Each page features a creature expressing a wish to have the traits of another. 'If only I were a stick insect,' says the butterfly. On the following page, the stick insect expresses a different wish. This daisy-chain of envy eventually circles back to self-appreciation.
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