Reach for this book when your child is grappling with the feeling that they do not fit the expectations of their community, or if they are beginning to ask questions about gender identity and self-expression. Based on the real-life experiences of activist Kai Shappley, this story follows Joy, a young transgender girl who is determined to be herself despite the rigid traditions of her Texas town. While Joy faces pushback from her school and church, the narrative is anchored in her vibrant personality and her mother's unwavering support. This is a celebratory and empowering read for children ages 8 to 12. It masterfully balances the heavy reality of social exclusion with the lighthearted joy of childhood creativity and holiday spirit. Parents will appreciate how the book models advocacy and resilience, providing a clear roadmap for how to stand tall when your identity is treated as a point of contention. It is an essential tool for normalizing trans identities and fostering deep empathy for those who must fight for the simple right to be seen.
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Sign in to write a reviewFrequent misgendering and transphobic comments from adults and peers.
Themes of exclusion and the emotional toll of not being accepted by one's community.
The book deals directly with transphobia, misgendering, and social exclusion. These topics are handled realistically but through the hopeful lens of a child's perspective. While there is religious tension, the resolution is one of self-actualization and community finding rather than a total institutional change.
A third to sixth grader who feels like an outsider or who has a strong sense of justice. It is particularly resonant for children in the LGBTQ+ community or those in conservative environments who need to see a model of resilience.
Parents should be prepared to discuss why certain adults in the book are being 'mean' or 'unfair' despite being in positions of authority (like teachers or pastors). It is helpful to read this alongside the child to validate the unfairness Joy experiences. A parent may reach for this after hearing their child say, 'The teachers keep calling me by the wrong name,' or 'I don't think I'm allowed to be myself at school.'
Younger readers (8-9) will focus on the 'fairness' of Joy being allowed to wear what she wants and play the roles she likes. Older readers (11-12) will better grasp the systemic nature of the prejudice and the bravery required for Kai's real-life activism.
Unlike many books about trans children that focus on the 'transition' process, this book focuses on the 'being.' Joy already knows who she is; the story is about the world catching up to her.
Joy is a young transgender girl living in a conservative Texas town. As the holiday season approaches, she is eager to participate in her church and school activities, but she faces significant pushback from adults who refuse to recognize her gender identity. The story follows her journey as she navigates these social hurdles, supported by her fierce mother and her own internal sense of self-worth, culminating in a defiant and joyful expression of her true identity.
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