
Reach for this book when your child's stubbornness is getting in the way of their own happiness or the well-being of others. It is a perfect choice for those moments when a child digs in their heels over a small, seemingly silly task and needs a gentle, humorous nudge to see that pride can be a lonely place. The story follows Annalisa, a young girl who loves her cow Luella but refuses to perform one simple, messy act of gratitude: kissing her on her sticky nose. Phyllis Root uses rhythmic, repetitive language that makes the consequences of Annalisa's choice clear: when she refuses to give, the cow refuses to give back. This story is ideal for children ages 4 to 8 who are navigating the concepts of reciprocity and compromise. It teaches that while it is okay to have boundaries, some gestures of love and duty are worth a little bit of discomfort. It provides a safe space to discuss how our individual actions affect the whole family.
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Sign in to write a reviewThe book is entirely secular and metaphorical. It deals with the concept of a 'strike' or withholding of resources in a way that is accessible to children. The resolution is hopeful and focuses on the growth of the protagonist.
A preschooler or early elementary student who is currently in a 'power struggle' phase. It is especially resonant for the child who refuses to apologize or perform a required chore because they find it 'yucky' or beneath them.
This book can be read cold. The repetitive 'Mama kissed the cow...' refrain invites participation. A parent will want this after hearing their child say 'No!' to a simple request for the tenth time, or seeing a child refuse to say 'thank you' or 'I'm sorry' even when they know they are in the wrong.
Younger children (4-5) will focus on the humor of the 'sticky nose' and the funny cow sounds. Older children (6-8) will better grasp the social contract: that Luella provides for the family and deserves respect in return.
Unlike many books about chores, this one focuses on the emotional transaction of 'the kiss' rather than just the labor. It highlights that gratitude is a necessary part of a relationship.
Annalisa lives on a farm with her many brothers and sisters and her favorite cow, Luella. Every day, the family relies on Luella's milk for their bread and cheese. While everyone else kisses Luella to thank her, Annalisa is too proud and find the cow's nose too 'messy.' When Luella finally tires of the snub and stops producing milk, the family goes hungry. Annalisa must decide if her pride is more important than her family's needs and her love for her cow.
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