For teens questioning their self-worth or struggling with first crushes, this story affirms the power of self-acceptance and finding genuine connection.
A parent might reach for this book when their thoughtful, creative teen is struggling with self-esteem and navigating the intimidating world of first crushes. The story follows Hannah, a talented eleventh-grade musician who feels plain and overlooked. Through a series of awkward but realistic romantic encounters, she learns that changing herself for a boy is never the answer. The book gently explores themes of self-acceptance, authenticity, and the importance of looking beyond superficial appearances. It's a quiet, character-driven story perfect for teens aged 14 to 18, offering reassurance that finding and valuing yourself is the most important journey of all.
The book deals directly with teenage insecurity, body image concerns, and romantic rejection. The approach is realistic and handled through Hannah's internal perspective. There is no religious or metaphorical framing. The resolution is deeply hopeful and empowering, focusing on Hannah's internal growth rather than external validation from a relationship. She ends the book more comfortable with herself, which is a very positive and realistic outcome.
Ideal Reader
This book is perfect for a teen aged 14 to 16 who feels like they are on the outside looking in. It's for the quiet, artistic, or academically-focused teen who might be feeling insecure about their social life or comparing themselves to more outgoing peers. It speaks directly to the child who is beginning to navigate crushes and feels pressured to be someone they are not.
Parent Prep
This book can be read cold. The content is very gentle. A parent might want to preview the scenes involving Hannah's dates to understand the specific social pressures she faces, such as feeling awkward about kissing or conversation. These scenes provide great openings for discussion about consent, communication, and what makes a relationship feel good and safe. A parent has heard their teen say something like, "No one will ever like me," or, "I'm too boring/weird/plain." The parent may have noticed their child trying to change their appearance, hobbies, or personality to impress a crush, and is looking for a story that champions authenticity.
Age Experience
A younger reader (14-15) will likely relate strongly to the cringe-worthy awkwardness of Hannah's dates and the intense feelings of having a first crush. An older teen (16-18) will likely appreciate the more subtle, underlying theme: that the journey to self-love is more critical and fulfilling than the quest for a high school relationship. They will see the value in Hannah's ultimate emotional independence.
What Makes It Special
Unlike many modern YA romances that are plot-heavy or focused on high-stakes drama, 'Kisses' is a quiet, internal, character-driven story. Its 1990 publication date means it's free from the complexities of social media, allowing it to focus on timeless, universal feelings of insecurity and the power of finding one's own voice without digital distractions. It values introspection over action.
Read plot summary
Eleventh-grader Hannah, a gifted musician, lacks social confidence and feels plain compared to her peers. She develops crushes on a series of boys: first, a popular but shallow jock, and then a seemingly deep and artistic classmate. In each case, she tries to mold her personality to fit their perceived expectations, leading to awkward encounters and eventual disappointment. Through these experiences, and with the support of her best friend, Hannah comes to realize that her own passions and personality are her greatest assets. The story concludes not with her finding the perfect boyfriend, but with her finding a new level of self-acceptance and confidence in her own identity.
This overview was generated by AI based on the book's content and reviews, and may not capture every nuance.
Discussion Prompts
1
Hannah tries to change her interests and even her laugh to get Kevin's attention. Why do you think she felt she needed to do that? What did she learn from the experience?
2
Hannah is first attracted to Kevin's popularity and then to Deakin's artistic persona. What did she discover about both of them once she got to know them? How does the book suggest we look beyond first impressions?
3
At the end of the book, Hannah doesn't have a boyfriend, but she seems more confident and happy. What has changed in how she sees herself and her own talents?
4
Hannah's friendship with Carol is a steady presence in the story. How does Carol support Hannah? What role do good friends play when you're navigating new social or romantic situations?
