
Reach for this book when your child comes home feeling wounded by the shifting dynamics of a school friendship, particularly the sting of 'three's a crowd.' It is a comforting resource for children who are struggling to share their best friend with a newcomer and are experiencing the natural jealousy that follows. Olive and Emily are inseparable until Eva arrives, causing Olive to retreat into a 'perfect world' of her own imagination where things never change. The story gently explores the transition from a dyad to a triad, validating the sadness of being left out while showing that a circle can always grow wider. It is perfectly pitched for elementary-aged children who are navigating the complex social hierarchies of the playground for the first time.
The book deals with social exclusion and jealousy. The approach is direct and secular, providing a realistic resolution where the protagonist learns to adapt to a new social dynamic rather than the 'intruder' simply going away.
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Sign in to write a reviewAn early elementary student (grades K-2) who is highly possessive of their 'best friend' status and feels threatened by new social additions to their group.
This book can be read cold. Parents should be prepared to discuss the 'daydream' sequences versus the 'real world' sequences to help younger children distinguish between Olive's wishes and her reality. A parent likely witnessed their child crying because a friend played with someone else at recess, or heard their child say, 'Emily isn't my friend anymore because she likes Eva now.'
A 4-year-old will focus on the sadness of Olive being alone. A 7 or 8-year-old will better understand the nuanced social 'dance' of three people playing together and may recognize their own possessive tendencies.
Unlike many books that focus on a 'mean girl' dynamic, this book focuses on the internal emotional processing of the child who feels left out, even when the other children aren't being intentionally cruel. It validates the difficulty of sharing affection.
Olive and Emily have a predictable, safe, and 'perfect' friendship. When a new girl named Eva enters the picture, Emily is eager to include her, but Olive feels displaced and jealous. Olive spends time daydreaming about an ideal world where it is just her and Emily, but she eventually realizes that including Eva doesn't mean losing Emily.
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