Reach for this book when your teenager begins questioning the layers of their identity or feels a disconnect between their home life and their racial reality. Alex is a talented baseball player who has always thrived in her loving, white adoptive family, but as she enters her mid-teens, the colorblind approach they have used starts to feel like a erasure of her true self. The story follows her journey of self-discovery as she navigates secret letters from her biological father and the complexities of being a Black girl in a predominantly white world. It is a poignant, honest look at transracial adoption and the necessary, sometimes painful process of defining oneself outside of a family's well-intentioned but limited perspective. This is a vital read for fostering deep conversations about honesty, heritage, and what it truly means to belong.
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Sign in to write a reviewOccasional realistic teen profanity.
Developing teen romance and first attraction.
Themes of abandonment, loss of heritage, and family secrets.
The book deals directly and realistically with transracial adoption, systemic racism, and the search for birth parents. The approach is secular and deeply psychological. The resolution is realistic rather than perfectly tidy, emphasizing growth and self-advocacy over easy answers.
A high schooler who feels like an outsider in their own community or family, specifically those navigating the unique 'in-between' space of transracial adoption or multiracial identity.
Parents should be prepared for scenes where Alex's parents fail to support her correctly, which may be convicting for adoptive parents. Reading the discovery of the hidden letters (Chapter 5) is recommended to understand the breach of trust. A parent might see their child withdrawing from family traditions or expressing frustration when the parent tries to minimize racial experiences with 'I don't see you as Black, I just see you as my daughter.'
Younger teens will focus on the sports and the romance, while older teens will deeply resonate with the systemic critiques and the complex nuances of identity formation.
Unlike many adoption stories that focus on the 'rescue' or the 'gift,' this book centers the adoptee's right to their own history and the specific, often ignored challenges of transracial family dynamics.
Alex Kirschner is a standout baseball player living in a white suburban bubble with her supportive adoptive parents. Her world shifts when she discovers hidden letters from her biological father. As she pursues a relationship with a boy who challenges her to embrace her Black identity, Alex must confront the fact that her parents' refusal to 'see color' has left her unprepared for the realities of race and belonging.
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