
Reach for this book when your child is feeling the sting of middle school social shifts or the confusion of outgrowing childhood friendships. It is perfect for the preteen who feels too young for high school drama but too old for kid stuff, especially if they are navigating their first real crush or feeling disconnected from their changing peers. Twelve-year-old Annemarie (Shug) is struggling to keep her balance as her best friend Mark starts seeing her differently, her older sister grows distant, and her parents' marriage begins to fracture. The story gently explores the messy reality of growing up, dealing with body image, and finding one's own voice amidst family conflict. While it deals with heavy themes like alcoholism and infidelity, it remains grounded in a 12-year-old's perspective, making it a comforting and normalizing read for those in the thick of the 'tween' years.
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Sign in to write a reviewFocuses on first crushes, unrequited love, and the social pressure of dating.
Occasional use of mild middle-school level insults.
The book deals with parental alcoholism and implied infidelity in a realistic, secular manner. The resolution is not a tidy 'happily ever after' but rather a hopeful steps toward resilience. It captures the painful, authentic realization that parents are flawed human beings.
A 12-year-old girl who feels like she is 'falling behind' her peers in terms of physical development or social maturity. It is for the child who is observant, perhaps a bit sensitive, and needs to see that her timeline is okay.
Parents should be aware of scenes involving the mother's drinking and the emotional neglect Shug feels. It is a great book to read alongside a child to discuss family dynamics and healthy versus unhealthy coping mechanisms. A parent might notice their child becoming more withdrawn, or perhaps the child has expressed feeling 'ugly' or 'different' compared to friends who are hitting puberty faster.
Younger readers (10-11) will focus on the friendship drama and the 'first crush' elements. Older readers (13-14) will more deeply resonate with the family dysfunction and the nuances of Shug's identity crisis.
Jenny Han captures the specific, visceral ache of being twelve with a level of sincerity that avoids being patronizing. It treats the problems of a preteen with the same gravity as adult problems.
Annemarie Wilcox, known as Shug, is entering seventh grade and finding that everything she once knew is shifting. Her long-time best friend, Mark, is suddenly a boy she has feelings for, but he is interested in other girls. At home, her mother struggles with alcohol and her parents' marriage is failing. Shug must navigate the social hierarchy of middle school while trying to hold onto her identity as a 'late bloomer.'
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