
Reach for this book when your child is beginning to question the rigid labels of the world or feels like they don't quite fit into the binary boxes of sports and school. Mars, formerly known as Veronica, is a talented figure skater navigating the technicalities of a gendered sport while privately mourning the death of their father. It is a deeply empathetic look at the courage it takes to be oneself when the rules haven't caught up to your reality. This story is perfect for middle-grade readers (ages 8-12) because it balances the heavy themes of grief and identity with the universal middle school experiences of friendship, competition, and finding one's voice. Parents will appreciate how it models supportive adult-child relationships and advocates for structural change rather than just individual resilience.
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Sign in to write a reviewThe book deals directly with gender identity and the grieving process following the death of a parent. The approach is secular and realistic, focusing on the internal emotional landscape and the external social hurdles. The resolution is hopeful and empowering, though it acknowledges that systemic change is a gradual process.
A 10-year-old athlete who feels the pressure of gendered expectations in their hobbies, or any child navigating the 'second year' of grief who needs to see that life can still be vibrant while holding onto memories.
Parents should be prepared to discuss the terminology of nonbinary identity. There are scenes of microaggressions and pushback from the skating community that may require a debrief regarding how to handle adults who are slow to change. A parent might pick this up after hearing their child say, 'I don't feel like a girl/boy,' or if they notice their child withdrawing from a beloved sport because the environment feels restrictive or 'wrong' for reasons the child can't yet name.
Younger readers (age 8-9) will focus on the excitement of the skating competition and the 'fairness' of the rules. Older readers (11-12) will connect more deeply with the nuances of Mars's internal identity journey and the complexity of their grieving process.
Unlike many books that focus solely on the 'coming out' moment, this story focuses on the intersection of identity and a specific technical passion (skating), showing how personal truth impacts every facet of a child's life.
Mars (born Veronica) is a middle schooler who identifies as nonbinary and wants to transition from the girls' figure skating division to a space where they can truly be themselves. While navigating the 'boxes' of the skating world, Mars is also grappling with the recent death of their father and a changing relationship with their mother. With the support of a loyal best friend and a coach who listens, Mars pushes for the right to compete as they are.
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