
Reach for this book when your child forms an intense, perhaps puzzling, attachment to an inanimate object or when you need a gentle way to discuss the natural cycle of life and letting go. It is a perfect choice for navigating the bittersweet transition of losing something beloved while finding hope in what comes next. The story follows young Sophie, who chooses a squash at the farmers market not to eat, but to love. Despite her parents' gentle reminders that squash eventually rot, Sophie treats 'Bernice' as a best friend. As Bernice begins to change and soften, the book beautifully mirrors the experience of grief and the eventual peace that comes with renewal. It is a whimsical yet profound tool for children aged 3 to 7 to understand that endings are often just new beginnings in disguise.
The book deals with the 'death' of a companion through the metaphor of a decomposing vegetable. The approach is entirely secular and grounded in the natural world. The resolution is deeply hopeful, emphasizing the cycle of life and regeneration rather than permanent loss.
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Sign in to write a reviewA preschooler or kindergartner who is highly imaginative or perhaps 'too' attached to a specific blanket, toy, or even a rock. It is also excellent for a child experiencing their first encounter with the concept of change or the loss of a pet.
No specific previewing is required. The book is very accessible. However, parents should be prepared to discuss the 'spots' on Bernice as a natural part of aging/changing. A parent might reach for this after seeing their child have a meltdown over a broken toy that cannot be fixed or after the child asks why a flower in the garden has withered and died.
For a 3-year-old, the focus is on the funny visual of a girl with a vegetable. A 7-year-old will better grasp the botanical science and the deeper metaphor of legacy and memory.
Unlike many 'loss' books that focus on pets or grandparents, this uses a low-stakes object (a vegetable) to teach high-stakes emotional intelligence, making the lesson digestible without being overwhelming.
Sophie goes to the farmers market and, instead of a toy, chooses a butternut squash as her companion. She names it Bernice, dresses it, and takes it everywhere. As autumn turns to winter, Bernice begins to rot (getting soft and spotty). Sophie is devastated but follows her mother's advice to place Bernice in the garden. In the spring, the spot where Bernice was 'tucked in' sprouts new life, resulting in a harvest of many new squash friends.
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