
Reach for this book when your middle schooler is navigating the complex, often silent fog of grief while simultaneously facing the awkward social pressures of puberty. It is a vital resource for children who feel 'stuck' in their sadness or who are using humor and withdrawal to mask the pain of losing a parent. The story follows Caryn, a young girl struggling to find her footing after her mother's death, dealing with a grieving father, and navigating her first significant crush. This novel is particularly effective because it balances heavy emotional themes with the genuine humor and messy realities of middle school life. It validates that grief doesn't happen in a vacuum: life, school, and hormones continue even when the world feels like it has stopped. Parents will appreciate the realistic, secular approach to loss and the hopeful message that finding your voice is the first step toward healing.
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Sign in to write a reviewDepicts parental depression and emotional withdrawal in the household.
Age-appropriate middle school crushes and social awkwardness.
The book deals directly with the death of a mother and the subsequent depression of the surviving father. The approach is secular and raw, focusing on the internal psychological experience of 'the fog' rather than spiritual platitudes. The resolution is realistic and hopeful, focusing on communication rather than a 'cure' for grief.
A 12-year-old who feels isolated by a major loss and is struggling to reconcile their 'old self' with the person they have become. It is perfect for the student who uses sarcasm or silence as a shield.
Parents should be prepared for depictions of parental neglect due to depression (the father's withdrawal). It is a safe read-cold book but benefits from a follow-up conversation about how the child is handling their own 'fog.' A parent might notice their child becoming 'the quiet one' or 'the funny one' to avoid talking about a family tragedy, or see their child struggling to connect with a surviving parent who is also grieving.
Younger readers (10-11) will focus on the school dynamics and the 'mean girl' tropes. Older readers (13-14) will more deeply resonate with the internal monologue regarding grief and the complexities of the father-daughter relationship.
Unlike many grief books that focus solely on the tragedy, Blackstone weaves in the awkward hilarity of middle school, making the protagonist's experience feel authentic and three-dimensional.
The story centers on Caryn, a middle school student reeling from the death of her mother. While her father retreats into his own silence, Caryn navigates the daily 'lostness' of grief alongside the standard-issue drama of seventh grade: mean girls, awkward boys, and the confusing spark of a first crush. It is a character-driven journey about breaking through emotional numbness.
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