
Reach for this book when your teenager is grappling with the pressure of labels or seeking to understand the spectrum of gender beyond the binary. It is a vital resource for parents of children who feel 'othered' by social expectations or who are questioning their own identity in a world that often demands a simple answer. Through the story of Riley Cavanaugh, the novel explores the profound courage required to live authentically while navigating the public and private spheres of high school life. The story follows Riley, a gender fluid teenager who starts an anonymous blog to process their feelings, only to have that safe space threatened by real world consequences. It tackles heavy themes like anxiety, social media vitriol, and family expectations with a grounded and realistic touch. For parents, this book offers a bridge to discuss self-respect and empathy. It is best suited for older teens (14+) due to its honest portrayal of bullying and mental health, providing a mirror for some and a window for others into the lived experience of gender non-conformity.
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Sign in to write a reviewIncludes typical high school profanity and some targeted slurs used by bullies.
Contains a scene of attempted sexual assault and instances of physical bullying.
Explores intense anxiety, panic attacks, and the emotional toll of hiding one's identity.
Depicts transphobia and harassment directed at the protagonist's gender identity.
The book deals directly with gender identity, panic attacks, and a graphic scene of attempted sexual assault. The approach is realistic and secular, focusing on psychological well-being and social dynamics. The resolution is hopeful but grounded in the reality that coming out is an ongoing process rather than a single finish line.
A 15-year-old who feels like they are wearing a mask every day, or a teenager who is active in online social justice spaces and needs to see the real-world implications of digital vulnerability.
Parents should preview the chapter involving the school locker room incident and the attempted assault near the end. It is a realistic portrayal of the dangers gender non-conforming youth face and requires discussion. A parent might notice their child becoming increasingly withdrawn, experiencing panic attacks, or expressing frustration that 'no one gets' who they really are.
Younger teens (14) will likely focus on the school drama and the 'secret identity' aspect of the blog. Older teens (17-18) will better appreciate the political nuances of Riley's father's career and the complexities of gender theory.
Unlike many YA novels that pick a side of the binary, this book captures the fluidity of identity (the 'symptoms' of being human) and the specific anxiety of a digital age where privacy is a luxury.
Riley Cavanaugh is gender fluid, identifying as neither exclusively male nor female. As the child of a high profile Congressman, Riley faces intense pressure to conform. To cope, Riley starts an anonymous blog which quickly gains a massive following. The narrative follows Riley's journey navigating a new school, developing a romance with a girl named Bec, and dealing with the fallout when their online identity is threatened by a blackmailer.
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