
Reach for this book when your child feels like an outsider or is struggling to balance different parts of their identity. Whether they are starting a new school, moving to a different neighborhood, or navigating a multicultural household, this story provides a mirror for the discomfort of not quite fitting in. The story follows May, a young woman born in California who is uprooted to her parents' native Japan. She feels like a foreigner in her own family's country, facing pressure to conform to traditional expectations she doesn't share. Through elegant illustrations and a quiet, dignified tone, the book explores the courage it takes to forge an independent path while still honoring one's heritage. It is a sophisticated yet accessible choice for children ages 6 to 10, offering a realistic look at the resilience required to find a sense of home within oneself.
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Sign in to write a reviewThe book deals with identity and cultural displacement in a direct, realistic manner. It touches on the pressure of arranged marriages and gender roles in prewar Japan. The resolution is hopeful and grounded in reality, focusing on personal agency rather than a magical solution.
A child who feels caught between two cultures, or an older elementary student who feels different from their peers and needs to see that individuality is a strength, not a flaw.
The book is safe to read cold, but parents should be ready to explain what a 'matchmaker' is and why May's parents expected her to marry someone she didn't know. A parent might choose this after hearing their child say, 'I don't belong here' or seeing them struggle to reconcile family traditions with their own personal interests.
Younger children (6-7) will focus on May's loneliness and her love for her home in California. Older children (8-10) will better grasp the nuance of cultural hybridity and the historical context of the prewar era.
Unlike many immigration stories that focus on coming to America, this flip-narrative highlights the experience of 'returning' to a homeland that feels foreign, masterfully illustrated by Allen Say's watercolor paintings.
After graduating high school in San Francisco, May (Masako) moves back to Japan with her parents. She struggles with the language, the restrictive clothing, and the cultural expectation to marry a stranger through a matchmaker. Choosing independence, she moves to the city of Kobe, finds a job as an elevator operator and later a translator, and eventually meets a man who, like her, enjoys 'tea with milk,' signifying a shared blend of Eastern and Western identities.
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