
Reach for this book when your child is struggling with 'big feelings' that often erupt into tantrums or bossy behavior, especially within the family dynamic. The story follows Lola, a young bear with a fierce temperament who believes she is the ruler of her household until a visit from her even more strong-willed cousin, Trixie, provides a much-needed mirror for her own behavior. It is a humorous and relatable look at self-regulation and empathy that helps children see the impact of their outbursts on others. Written for children ages 3 to 7, it offers a gentle way to discuss temperament and the importance of kindness without being overly preachy. Parents will appreciate how it validates the intensity of a child's emotions while modeling the shift toward more considerate social interactions.
The book deals with behavioral regulation and sibling/cousin rivalry. The approach is metaphorical through animal characters and remains secular. The resolution is hopeful and realistic, showing growth rather than a perfect overnight transformation.
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Sign in to write a reviewA preschooler or early elementary student who is often described as 'spirited' or 'strong-willed' and who struggles to share control during playdates or with siblings.
This book can be read cold. Parents might want to pause when Trixie is being difficult to ask the child if Trixie's behavior reminds them of anyone, or how it makes Lola feel. A parent might reach for this after a particularly public or exhausting tantrum, or after hearing their child speak unkindly to a friend or sibling in an attempt to control a situation.
Younger children (3-4) will enjoy the physical humor of the bears' expressions. Older children (5-7) will better grasp the irony of Lola being 'out-Lola-ed' by her cousin.
Unlike many 'behavior' books that focus on adult discipline, this story uses a peer-mirroring technique, allowing the child character to reach her own conclusions about why her behavior is problematic through natural consequences.
Lola is a young bear known for her 'fiery' personality and her tendency to demand her own way in all things. She is the center of her world until her cousin Trixie arrives for a visit. Trixie is even louder, bossier, and more demanding than Lola. Through observing Trixie's behavior and feeling the frustration of being on the receiving end of it, Lola gains a new perspective on her own actions and begins to moderate her behavior.
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