
Reach for this book when your teenager is struggling to find their voice in a relationship that feels restrictive or when they are grieving a significant loss. This story follows Bettina, a girl navigating the intense grief of a family tragedy while realized her relationship with an older, possessive boyfriend is stifling her growth. It is a powerful exploration of setting boundaries and rediscovering self-worth after trauma. Parents will appreciate how the book models the difficult process of 'kissing goodbye' to people and situations that no longer serve a person's well-being. While it deals with heavy themes of death and emotional manipulation, the tone remains realistic and ultimately empowering for readers aged 14 and up. It serves as an excellent tool for opening conversations about healthy vs. unhealthy relationship dynamics and the non-linear path of healing.
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Sign in to write a reviewDepicts an emotionally manipulative and controlling relationship.
Occasional realistic teen profanity.
The book deals directly with the death of a loved one (a sibling) and the suffocating nature of emotional manipulation in dating. The approach is secular and grounded in realism. The resolution is hopeful but acknowledges that healing is an ongoing process.
A high school student who feels 'stuck' in their social life or relationship and needs a mirror to see that they deserve autonomy and respect, especially while navigating personal loss.
Parents should be aware of scenes depicting Brady's controlling behavior and the visceral descriptions of grief. It can be read cold, but discussing the 'red flags' of the relationship afterward is recommended. A parent might notice their teen becoming withdrawn, or perhaps they see their teen's partner exhibiting 'red flag' behaviors like monitoring texts or isolating the teen from friends.
Younger teens (14) will focus on the drama of the romance and the sadness of the loss. Older teens (17-18) will likely pick up on the nuanced psychological aspects of the unhealthy relationship and the protagonist's burgeoning identity.
Unlike many YA novels that romanticize 'intense' protective boyfriends, this book explicitly labels that behavior as something to be escaped, providing a vital counter-narrative to toxic romance tropes.
Bettina is a high school student reeling from a sudden family tragedy. Amidst her grief, she remains in a relationship with Brady, an older, protective, and increasingly possessive boyfriend. As she begins to explore new interests and meets a boy named Cowboy, she realizes that her current relationship is based on control rather than support. The story follows her journey of untangling herself from Brady while processing her family's pain.
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