
A parent should reach for this book when their child is struggling to say a meaningful "I'm sorry" or is having a hard time forgiving a friend. This collection of poems is set in a classroom where students write notes of apology for everything from eating a sibling's candy to breaking a toy or teasing a friend. Each apology is often paired with a response, showing both sides of the conflict. It gently explores shame, empathy, and the relief of reconciliation. For ages 5 to 9, this book avoids preachy lessons. Instead, it uses humor and relatable situations to model how to mend relationships, making the difficult acts of apologizing and forgiving feel both normal and achievable.
The book handles common childhood conflicts (sibling rivalry, peer conflict, breaking rules) with a gentle, secular approach. Feelings of guilt, shame, or being hurt are handled directly but with a hopeful focus on resolution and understanding. The resolutions are mostly realistic and comforting.
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Sign in to write a reviewAn emotionally perceptive 6 to 8 year old navigating the social complexities of school friendships. It is also perfect for a child who struggles to verbalize feelings, as the poems provide a script and emotional validation. A good fit for a sensitive child who feels deep guilt over small mistakes.
No special prep is needed, it can be read cold. Parents might want to preview the poems to pick one that is most relevant to a current situation. The introduction explaining the origin of the title poem by William Carlos Williams is helpful context for older readers or parents. A parent has just witnessed their child do something wrong (take a toy, say something unkind) and then struggle to apologize, perhaps saying "sorry" without meaning it or hiding in shame. Or, the child comes home upset because a friend apologized but they still feel mad.
A 5 year old will enjoy the stories within the poems and the rhythm of the language, grasping the basic concept of saying sorry. An 8 or 9 year old will appreciate the poetic form, the humor, and the emotional nuance. They can more deeply understand that forgiveness isn't always immediate and that an apology must be sincere.
Its use of poetry is unique. Instead of a prose narrative telling kids how to apologize, it shows them through authentic, child-like voices. The two-part structure (apology and response) is a powerful and rare tool for teaching perspective-taking, a key component of genuine empathy.
This book is a collection of paired poems set in Mrs. Merz's classroom. Students write poems of apology for various transgressions, ranging from the humorous (eating forbidden plums) to the more serious (teasing, losing a pet). These are often followed by response poems from the recipient, who grants or contemplates forgiveness. The book explores different facets of apology through the interconnected lives of the students.
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