
A parent would reach for this book when their teenager is navigating the complex, often blurry lines between friendship and romance, or if they are beginning to explore labels related to asexuality and aromanticism. It is a deeply empathetic look at how high schoolers negotiate intense emotional bonds while trying to maintain their own sense of self within a group dynamic. The story centers on Ramona, Sam, and Tom, three musicians whose lives and hearts become inextricably linked. It explores themes of loyalty, creative passion, and the realization that love does not always fit into neat, traditional boxes. Parents will appreciate the book for its mature, thoughtful approach to identity and its normalization of non-traditional relationship structures, making it an excellent choice for mature teens (14 and up) who feel like they do not fit the standard dating mold.
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Sign in to write a reviewOccasional realistic teen profanity.
Themes of loneliness and the fear of social isolation.
The book deals directly with sexual identity (asexuality) and non-traditional relationship structures (polyamory). The approach is secular and realistic, focusing on the internal emotional lives of the teens. The resolution is hopeful and validating, emphasizing communication and self-acceptance over societal expectations.
A high schooler who feels 'othered' by typical romance tropes or who is questioning if they are asexual or aromantic. It is for the teen who finds their deepest connections through shared hobbies, like music, and worries that romance might ruin their friendships.
Parents should be prepared to discuss polyamory and asexuality. The book can be read cold by most teens, but a conversation about different ways people experience attraction would be a helpful accompaniment. A parent might see their teen pulling away from traditional social milestones or expressing confusion about why they don't feel 'crushes' the same way their peers do.
Younger teens (14) will focus on the band dynamics and the 'love triangle' tension, while older teens (17-18) will better grasp the nuanced discussions of identity labels and the subversion of romantic norms.
Unlike many YA romances that force a choice between two love interests, this book explores the possibility of 'and' instead of 'or,' specifically through the lens of asexuality and queer platonic bonds.
Ramona has always loved her best friend Sam, but their relationship is defined by a deep, platonic-leaning soulmate connection. When they recruit Tom to join their band, a new romantic spark ignites between Ramona and Tom. The narrative follows the trio as they navigate the complexities of a polyamorous dynamic and Ramona's evolving understanding of her own asexuality. It is a character-driven exploration of how creative collaboration can mirror emotional intimacy.
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