
A parent might reach for this book when their responsible, perhaps overly mature child is trying to “fix” the family during a divorce. This story is about thirteen-year-old Gilda, who believes she can stop her parents' separation by creating a perfect, traditional Thanksgiving. She pours all her energy into this plan, while also caring for her younger siblings and navigating a new friendship. The book gently but honestly explores the anxiety, sadness, and sense of overwhelming responsibility a child can feel in this situation. It's a validating read for ages 10 to 14, offering comfort by showing a character who learns she cannot control her parents' choices but can find her own strength and resilience.
The book's central topic, parental divorce, is handled with direct realism. There is no metaphorical buffer. It focuses on the emotional fallout for the children, particularly the oldest child who takes on a caregiving role. The resolution is not a happy reunion, but a realistic acceptance of the new situation. It is ultimately hopeful, as Gilda finds inner strength, but the sadness of the family's dissolution is not glossed over. The approach is entirely secular.
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Sign in to write a reviewThis book is perfect for the 11 to 14-year-old who feels like the weight of the world, or at least their family, is on their shoulders. It's for the 'parentified' child who is trying to manage everyone's feelings and fix the unfixable during a family crisis like a divorce.
Parents should be prepared for the depiction of flawed, sometimes self-absorbed parents. Gilda's mother, in particular, may seem unsympathetic at times. The scene where Thanksgiving falls apart is the emotional core and could be upsetting. The book can be read cold, but it opens the door for a crucial conversation: it is not a child's job to fix their parents' marriage or manage adult emotions. A parent has just seen their child take on too much responsibility during their separation. They might hear their child say, "Don't worry, I'll handle it," or see them trying to mediate arguments and manage family logistics. The trigger is seeing your child act like a miniature adult out of stress.
A younger reader, around 10 or 11, will connect with the unfairness of Gilda's situation and the deep sadness of a ruined holiday. An older reader, 12 to 14, will more fully grasp the psychological weight Gilda carries, her desperate need for control, and the nuance of her emotional growth as she lets go of that impossible burden.
Unlike many divorce books that focus on general sadness or anger, this story's unique strength is its sharp focus on the 'parentified' child. The use of a single, high-stakes event like Thanksgiving as a proxy for the entire family's fate makes Gilda's struggle tangible and her ultimate disappointment deeply resonant. It powerfully validates the experience of the child who tries to be the glue.
Thirteen-year-old Gilda is in denial about her parents' impending divorce. Convinced she can reunite them, she focuses on orchestrating the perfect family Thanksgiving, just like they used to have. She juggles the emotional needs of her younger brother and sister, her parents' frustrating new lives, and a budding friendship with a new girl at school. When her plan for the holiday inevitably crumbles, Gilda is forced to confront the painful reality of her new family structure and begin the process of acceptance.
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