
A parent might reach for this book when their child is struggling to make friends, feeling left out, or seems confused by playground social rules. "Want to Play?" uses a clever and accessible advice column format, where fictional 8th graders Frank B. Wize and Tina Truly answer letters from kids about real-life friendship problems. It covers everything from how to join a game to dealing with a bossy friend or handling teasing. By modeling empathy, kindness, and self-confidence, the book gives children concrete, actionable strategies for navigating their social world, making it an excellent tool for opening up conversations about tricky feelings and situations.
The book directly addresses social exclusion, teasing, and conflict, which can be seen as light forms of bullying. The approach is secular, practical, and solution-oriented. The resolution for each scenario is hopeful, providing the child with clear, positive steps they can take to improve their situation.
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Sign in to write a reviewThis book is perfect for a 7 to 9 year old who is socially hesitant, new to a school, or finds the unwritten rules of friendship confusing. It's for the child who comes home saying, "No one played with me today," or who has trouble standing up for themselves with a more dominant peer.
No preparation is needed; the book can be read cold. However, its format is an excellent launchpad for discussion. A parent should be prepared to pause after each letter and ask, "Has anything like that ever happened to you?" to connect the advice to their child's own experiences. A parent has just heard their child say, "I don't have any friends," or witnessed their child standing alone on the playground. The child might have asked a direct question like, "What do I do if someone is mean to me?" or is showing anxiety about going to school.
A younger reader (age 7) will latch onto the most concrete advice, like specific phrases to use when asking to join a game. An older reader (age 9-10) will better appreciate the more nuanced concepts, such as understanding a friend's perspective or the importance of apologizing sincerely.
Unlike many social skills books that can feel clinical, the advice-column format is highly engaging and relatable for kids. Using slightly older children (8th graders) as the "experts" gives the advice a peer-to-peer feel that is less preachy than adult-driven instruction. It normalizes friendship struggles as a universal part of growing up.
This non-fiction book is structured as an advice column for elementary schoolers. Fictional 8th-grade columnists Frank B. Wize and Tina Truly respond to letters from kids facing common social dilemmas. Topics covered include how to ask someone to play, what to do when you feel left out, how to deal with a bossy or bragging friend, navigating arguments, and the basics of being a good listener and a kind person.
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