
A parent might reach for this book when their child comes home talking about social exclusion, either as the one being left out or as part of a group that is excluding someone. 'We Don't Like Bertie!' is a gentle and humorous story that explores why a group of children decide to dislike a new classmate and how one child starts to question that decision. It thoughtfully navigates the emotional landscape of loneliness, peer pressure, and the courage it takes to be kind when others are not. For children ages 4 to 8, this book is an excellent tool for opening a conversation about empathy, snap judgments, and the importance of forming your own opinions, making it a valuable addition to any social-emotional library.
The book addresses social exclusion and the dynamics of mild, non-physical bullying. Its approach is direct, secular, and focused on the emotional impact of the children's actions. The resolution is hopeful and realistic. It doesn't magically make everyone best friends but shows that one person's empathy can break down a social wall and begin to change a situation for the better.
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Sign in to write a reviewThis book is perfect for a 5 to 7-year-old navigating the complex social rules of school or daycare for the first time. It is especially suited for a child who has been on either side of an exclusive clique or a child who tends to follow the group and needs encouragement to think for themselves.
No special preparation is needed. A parent can read this book cold. It would be helpful to be ready to pause on the page where the children list their reasons for disliking Bertie, as this is a natural place to ask, "Are those fair reasons?" A parent has just heard their child say something like, "We all decided not to play with Sarah today," or comes home sad because, "No one likes me." The parent wants a story that can spark a conversation about kindness and fairness without being a lecture.
A younger child (4-5) will grasp the core message: it's not nice to leave people out, and being kind makes a new friend. An older child (6-8) will also understand the more nuanced themes of peer pressure, social courage, and the internal conflict of going against the group. They are more likely to connect it to specific social dynamics in their own classroom.
What makes this book stand out is its likely perspective. By focusing on a bystander who becomes an ally (an "upstander"), it provides a more actionable and empowering model for a wider range of children than a story told only from the victim's point of view. It puts the power to change the situation directly into the reader's hands.
The story follows a group of children who collectively decide to ostracize a classmate named Bertie. Their reasons are superficial and childlike: he's too loud, he has a funny laugh, he eats weird food. The narrative is driven by one child within the group who begins to feel uneasy about the exclusion. Through quiet observation, this protagonist sees Bertie perform an act of kindness or notices a special skill he has. This leads to a moment of decision: stick with the group or reach out to Bertie. The story resolves with the narrator making a connection, modeling how a single person can challenge groupthink and start a new friendship.
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