
Reach for this book when your child is in the middle of a bad mood and cannot explain why, or when they are struggling with feelings of envy and resentment toward others. Shinsuke Yoshitake moves away from the typical 'take a deep breath' advice to offer a quirky, imaginative exploration of why we feel 'prickly' inside. It validates the child's experience by acknowledging that some people are simply difficult to like, and it provides a humorous mental toolkit for processing those negative emotions. With its distinct manga-inspired illustrations and philosophical wit, the book is perfect for elementary-aged children who are developing more complex social awareness. It transforms heavy feelings into something manageable and even funny, helping kids realize that while they cannot always control their circumstances or other people, they can change how they think about them. It is an essential choice for normalizing the 'ugly' feelings we all have but rarely talk about.
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Sign in to write a reviewThe book deals with negative emotions like hatred, jealousy, and spite. The approach is secular and highly metaphorical. It does not try to 'fix' the child but rather offers a realistic, hopeful way to coexist with difficult feelings.
A 6 or 7-year-old who is starting to experience complex social friction at school or with siblings and feels guilty or overwhelmed by their own 'mean' thoughts.
Read it cold. The humor works best when discovered together. Note that it uses words like 'hate,' which some parents may want to contextualize. A parent might see their child stomping around, refusing to play, or saying 'I hate them!' about a friend or classmate.
4-year-olds will enjoy the silly monsters and machines. 8-year-olds will appreciate the deep emotional truth and the clever, internal strategies for managing social stress.
Unlike most 'feelings' books that focus on mindfulness or breathing, Yoshitake uses absurdism and cognitive reframing to help kids externalize their problems and laugh at them.
The story follows a young girl who is feeling grumpy and resentful because of people she doesn't like. She wonders why she feels this way and begins to imagine imaginative, absurd reasons for her bad mood. She visualizes her annoyances as 'Hate-you-lots' monsters and considers that perhaps her bad mood is being caused by invisible spirits or a giant machine. Eventually, she finds creative ways to distract herself and realize that everyone, even adults, has these days.
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