
Reach for this book when your child is digging in their heels, staging a protest, or feeling overwhelmed by a major family transition like moving house. It captures the authentic, messy, and stubborn voice of a child who feels like their world is being uprooted without their consent. Alexander is not interested in hearing about 'new adventures': he is too busy cataloging everything he is going to miss, from his best friend to his favorite neighbor with the backyard swing. While many books about moving focus on the excitement of the new destination, Judith Viorst honors the difficulty of the 'goodbye' phase. It is a perfect tool for validating a child's right to be angry or sad before they are ready to be brave. Best for children ages 4 to 9, this story provides a humorous but deeply empathetic mirror for kids who feel powerless in the face of big adult decisions.
The book deals with household moving in a secular, realistic way. The resolution is realistic: Alexander still has to move, but he is allowed to feel his feelings and take a small piece of home with him. It does not sugarcoat the loss of friendships.
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Sign in to write a reviewAn elementary schooler who feels their life is being controlled by adults and needs a safe outlet for their 'no.' It is particularly effective for children who value routine and deep social connections.
Read this cold. The black-and-white illustrations are expressive, so take time to point out Alexander's body language. Be prepared for your child to agree with Alexander's 'unreasonable' demands. The trigger is the 'stubborn phase.' A parent has likely just heard 'I'm not going!' or 'You can't make me!' and is feeling the exhaustion of trying to sell a positive spin to a child who isn't buying it.
Younger children (4-5) will focus on the funny places Alexander tries to hide. Older children (7-9) will deeply resonate with the specific loss of 'best friends' and the feeling of unfairness regarding a parent's career choices.
Unlike many 'moving' books that rush to show how great the new house is, Viorst spends almost the entire book in the resistance phase, giving children permission to mourn their old life.
Alexander's family is moving to a new city because of his father's job. While his brothers, Anthony and Nick, are packing, Alexander refuses to participate. He lists the people, places, and small memories he refuses to leave behind, such as his friend Paul, his soccer team, and his favorite sitters. He suggests various ways he can stay behind (living in a treehouse or with neighbors) before finally accepting a small compromise from his parents.
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