
Reach for this book when your child feels stuck in a negative reputation or struggles with the label of being a troublemaker. It is the perfect tool for children who use humor or aggression to mask feelings of loneliness, providing a mirror for those who find it hard to navigate social hierarchies. The story follows Bernice, a self-proclaimed bully whose life is upended when she is sent to live with her aunt, a nun, in a small town. Through Bernice's hilarious and often clumsy attempts to follow her Aunt Meena's 'Plan for Model Citizenship,' the book explores deep themes of redemption, the courage it takes to apologize, and the vulnerability required to make a true friend. It is an excellent choice for children aged 8 to 12 who enjoy funny, high-voice narrators but are ready for a story with significant emotional weight. Parents will appreciate how the book models behavior change without being overly preachy, showing that while reinventing yourself is difficult, it is always possible.
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Sign in to write a reviewThemes of parental abandonment and neglect are present throughout.
A stunt sequence involves some physical risk and a minor injury.
The book deals with parental neglect and abandonment in a direct but age-appropriate way. Bernice's mother is consistently unreliable, which is treated realistically rather than being magically fixed. The religious setting (the convent) is central but presented through a lens of community and kindness rather than strict dogma.
A 10-year-old who uses humor as a shield, perhaps someone who has been reprimanded for behavioral issues and feels like 'the bad kid' who can never win.
Read the scenes involving Bernice's mother to prepare for questions about why some parents aren't able to care for their children. The book can be read cold, but discussing the 'Model Citizen' checklist is a great way to engage. A parent might see their child being excluded from a group or hear that their child was the 'aggressor' in a school conflict and want to understand the 'why' behind the behavior.
Younger readers (8-9) will focus on the slapstick humor and the funny name 'Buttman.' Older readers (11-12) will pick up on the nuanced pain of Bernice's home life and the difficulty of social redemption.
Unlike many books about bullying that focus on the victim, this provides a rare, empathetic, and hilarious inside look at the bully's psyche and the possibility of change.
Bernice Buttman is a middle-schooler whose identity is built on being the person everyone fears. When her mother leaves her with her Aunt Meena, a nun in a small town, Bernice is stripped of her reputation and forced to follow a checklist for becoming a 'model citizen.' She navigates a new school, tries to build a Hollywood-style stunt set, and eventually realizes that her bullying was a defense mechanism against her own neglect and isolation.
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