
Reach for this book when your child experiences explosive 'seeing red' moments where their physical reactions happen faster than their thoughts. It is especially helpful for the child who feels overwhelmed by the intensity of their anger and needs a concrete roadmap to return to a state of calm. Through the story of Ben, a young boy who compares his fury to a charging bull, children learn that while anger is a powerful force, it is manageable. The book uses rhythmic rhyme to walk through the physical sensations of anger and introduces specific, actionable coping mechanisms. By focusing on Ben's internal experience and his eventual choice to apologize, it helps normalize big feelings while modeling personal responsibility. It is an ideal tool for parents of preschoolers and early elementary students (ages 3 to 7) who are building their emotional vocabulary and self-regulation skills.
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Sign in to write a reviewThe book deals with behavioral outbursts and the feelings of shame that often follow. The approach is direct and secular, offering a hopeful and realistic resolution focused on self-regulation and restorative action.
A high-energy 4 or 5-year-old who tends to act out physically when frustrated and needs a 'script' for how to stop the momentum of a tantrum.
This book can be read cold, but parents should be ready to mimic the breathing exercises alongside the child during the reading. This is the book for the parent who just witnessed their child throw a toy, scream, or stomp out of the room in a fit of rage.
Younger children (3-4) will focus on the bull metaphor and the 'Count the Honey Bees' game. Older children (5-7) will better grasp the sequence of the calming techniques and the importance of the apology at the end.
Unlike many 'anger books' that focus only on the feeling, this one combines a rhythmic, relatable metaphor with a built-in focus activity (the bees) that actually practices the 'concentration' skill the book preaches.
Ben is a young boy who struggles with intense, sudden anger, which he visualizes as being like a bull. The story follows Ben as he experiences a 'meltdown' and then utilizes specific sensory and breathing techniques to de-escalate his physical and emotional state. After regaining control, Ben navigates the social aftermath of his anger by taking responsibility and apologizing to his parents. Throughout the pages, hidden honey bees offer an interactive 'search and find' element to keep young readers engaged.
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