
Reach for this book when your child has had a hard day of making mistakes, breaking rules, or struggling with big impulses that led to a 'time out' or a scolding. It is an essential tool for repair after moments of discipline, helping children understand that your love is constant and unconditional, even when their behavior is less than perfect. The story follows Plum, a lovable and exuberant dog who gets carried away by all the things she loves, leading to some messy mishaps and a brief period of being 'in disgrace.' Through Plum's experience, children aged 2 to 6 learn to navigate the heavy feelings of shame and the relief of sincere apology. It is a comforting, humorous choice for parents who want to model healthy forgiveness and reinforce the idea that a bad choice does not make them a bad person. The gentle resolution provides a safe space to discuss how we can make things right when we mess up.
The book deals with behavioral correction and the feeling of being in 'trouble.' The approach is secular and highly metaphorical, using a pet's behavior to mirror a child's impulsivity. The resolution is deeply hopeful and secure.
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Sign in to write a reviewA preschooler who struggles with impulse control or a child who is particularly sensitive to parental disapproval and needs extra reassurance after a conflict.
No specific previewing is needed, though parents should be ready to emphasize the distinction between 'Plum was bad' (the action) and 'Plum is loved' (the personhood). A parent might reach for this after a 'meltdown' afternoon where they had to raise their voice or implement a consequence, leaving both parent and child feeling disconnected.
Toddlers will enjoy the physical humor of the dog's antics. Older children (ages 5-6) will more deeply identify with the internal feeling of 'disgrace' and the mechanics of a sincere apology.
Unlike many 'behavior' books that focus on the rules, this book focuses on the emotional aftermath of breaking them, specifically addressing the fear that love might be withdrawn when we fail.
Plum is a joyful dog who loves many things: sticks, treats, and chasing pigeons. However, her over-enthusiasm leads to trouble when she jumps in a bog, eats the cat's food, and tears up a cushion. Her owners are frustrated, and Plum feels the weight of being 'bad.' After a period of reflection and a heartfelt apology, her family reassures her that while they didn't like her actions, they will always love her.
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