
Reach for this book when your child is feeling the weight of over-scheduling or the confusing social politics of 'best friend' groups. It is perfect for children who are beginning to realize that saying yes to one passion often means saying no to another, and who are navigating the guilt that comes with changing their mind about an identity they have held for a long time. CJ is a second grader who has always been a ballet girl, but now she is feeling the pull of soccer and social outings. The story explores the stress of high-stakes performance, the pressure of keeping up with peer-group trends (like expensive friendship rings), and the importance of being honest with parents about one's true desires. It is a gentle, humorous, and deeply relatable look at the early elementary transition from 'doing what you are told' to 'discovering who you are.'
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Sign in to write a reviewThe book deals with social exclusion and performance anxiety. The approach is direct and secular. The resolution is realistic: CJ learns that she can change her mind about her hobbies, but she must also face the consequences of her social choices.
A 7 to 9 year old who is starting to feel 'burnt out' by a specific activity (sports, music, dance) or a child who is experiencing the first sting of 'clique' behavior in school.
Read the scenes involving the friendship ring to prepare for a discussion on how 'matching' items can sometimes make others feel left out. The book can be read cold. A parent might choose this after hearing their child say, 'I don't want to go to practice anymore,' or witnessing a tearful breakdown over a lost or exclusive friendship item.
Younger readers will focus on the humor of the school setting and the cool factor of the rings. Older readers (9+) will resonate more with the internal conflict of identity and the fear of disappointing parents.
Unlike many books that encourage 'sticking with it,' this story validates the idea that it is okay to quit something to find balance, while maintaining a humorous and light tone.
CJ has defined herself through ballet for years, but the demands of rehearsals are causing her to miss out on soccer and school trips. Parallel to her extracurricular crisis, she and her best friend Zoe buy matching friendship rings that inadvertently create a social divide in their peer group. CJ must navigate the guilt of wanting to quit a long-term commitment and the social fallout of exclusive friendships.
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