
A parent would reach for this book when their child is caught in the crossfire of a messy divorce or feels pressured to choose sides between two parents. It speaks directly to the guilt and anxiety that children often feel when they are asked to make adult decisions about their living arrangements and loyalty. Stacey must navigate the heavy emotional weight of deciding whether to stay with her mother in Connecticut or move back to New York City to be with her father. The story validates the child's perspective, showing that it is okay to feel angry at parents who put their children in this impossible position. While Stacey eventually finds a resolution, the book is praised for its honesty regarding the messy reality of post-divorce family dynamics. It is an ideal choice for middle schoolers who are struggling with the transition of moving or the shifting landscape of their family structure.





















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Sign in to write a reviewThe book handles divorce and parental conflict through a direct, secular lens. The parents' behavior is depicted realistically, including their manipulative tendencies, which may be difficult for some children but serves as a mirror for those in similar situations. The resolution is realistic rather than perfectly happy, emphasizing compromise and personal boundaries.
A 10 to 12 year old child whose parents are navigating a high-conflict divorce or a move, especially one who feels they must act as the 'emotional caretaker' for their parents.
Parents should be prepared for the depiction of the adults in the book as flawed and somewhat selfish. It may be helpful to read the chapter where Stacey finally confronts her parents together to facilitate a discussion about healthy communication. A parent might see their child withdrawing, becoming unusually irritable, or expressing deep anxiety about upcoming visitation schedules or 'loyalty tests.'
Younger readers (age 8-9) focus on the fear of Stacey leaving her friends; older readers (11-12) will deeply resonate with the nuances of Stacey's internal conflict and the pressure of parental expectations.
Unlike many divorce books that focus on the initial split, this story highlights the long-term emotional 'labor' children perform to keep both parents happy years after the divorce.
Stacey McGill is caught in a tug-of-war between her divorced parents. Her father is moving back to New York City and wants Stacey to live with him, while her mother expects her to stay in Connecticut. Amidst the pressure, Stacey struggles with her loyalty to her friends in the Baby-Sitters Club and her desire to please both parents, leading to an emotional breaking point.
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