
Reach for this book when your child is struggling to share the spotlight or when their natural enthusiasm starts to overshadow the efforts of their peers. This semi-autobiographical story follows young Tommy, a boy with a huge personality who is thrilled to be cast in his kindergarten play. While his talent is undeniable, his desire to be the center of attention leads him to make choices that disrupt the group performance. It is an excellent resource for discussing the balance between individual confidence and the importance of being a supportive team member. With Tomie dePaola's signature warmth and humor, the book validates a child's desire to shine while gently modeling how to apologize and make room for others. It is perfectly pitched for children ages 4 to 8 who are navigating early social dynamics in school or extracurricular activities.
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Sign in to write a reviewTommy feels a sense of shame and regret when he realizes he upset his teacher and friends.
The book is entirely secular and realistic. It deals with social embarrassment and the mild guilt associated with making a mistake in a group setting. The resolution is hopeful and focuses on social restoration.
A high-energy, charismatic 5 or 6-year-old who is often told to 'tone it down' or who has recently had a conflict during a group project or team activity because they wanted to lead everything.
This book can be read cold. Parents should be prepared to discuss the difference between 'good acting' and 'good teamwork,' as Tommy is technically a very good performer but a poor teammate. A parent might reach for this after a teacher mentions that their child is having trouble following directions in a group, or after witnessing their child dominate a playdate to the point where other children stop playing.
Younger children (4-5) will focus on the funny chaos of the play and Tommy's costumes. Older children (7-8) will better grasp the nuance of Tommy's internal conflict and the social consequences of upstaging friends.
Unlike many 'be yourself' books, this one offers a nuanced look at when 'being yourself' needs to be tempered with empathy for others. It uses dePaola’s real-life childhood experiences to provide an authentic, non-preachy perspective on big personalities.
Tommy is a kindergartner with a passion for performing. When his class puts on a play based on Peter Rabbit, Tommy is disappointed to be cast as Mopsy rather than Peter. Despite the smaller role, Tommy uses his stage presence to 'improve' his performance, effectively upstaging his classmates and causing chaos. The story follows his realization that his actions affected his friends and his subsequent attempts to make amends.
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