
A parent might reach for this book when their child is struggling with the embarrassment or social stigma of a family member's cognitive decline. It is a powerful resource for middle grade readers who feel guilty about being ashamed of a loved one with Alzheimer's or dementia. The story follows Jake Moon, a boy who once adored his grandfather Skelly, but now finds himself cringing at his grandfather's unpredictable and often humiliating public behavior. It captures the raw, honest internal conflict between deep love and the intense desire to fit in at school. Parents will appreciate how it validates the difficult emotions of caregiving from a child's perspective while ultimately moving toward a place of empathy and acceptance. It is a realistic, secular look at growing up and facing life's less pretty transitions.
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Sign in to write a reviewThe protagonist struggles with deep shame and hides his grandfather's condition from friends.
The book deals directly with Alzheimer's disease and elder care. The approach is realistic and secular, focusing on the social and emotional impact on the family. The resolution is bittersweet but hopeful, emphasizing emotional growth over a medical cure.
A middle schooler who feels isolated by a family secret or a relative's disability. Specifically, a child who is experiencing the 'age of embarrassment' and needs to see that their feelings of shame do not make them a bad person.
The first chapter is a gut-punch that sets the tone. Parents should be prepared to discuss the concept of 'shame vs. guilt' and the reality that Alzheimer's is a progressive disease with no easy fix. A parent might see their child avoiding a grandparent or acting out in embarrassment during a family outing. The child might say something like, 'Why can't he just act normal?' or try to hide their family situation from friends.
Younger readers (ages 8-9) may focus on the sadness of Skelly's confusion. Older readers (11-13) will more deeply resonate with Jake's social predicament and the fear of being 'the kid with the weird grandpa.'
Unlike many books that sentimentalize the grandparent-grandchild bond, Barbara Park is brutally honest about the anger and embarrassment children feel, which makes the eventual empathy feel earned rather than forced.
Jake Moon recounts his shifting relationship with his grandfather, Skelly. Once his best friend and hero, Skelly now has Alzheimer's, leading to moments of public humiliation, such as the dumpster incident in the opening chapter. Jake must navigate the social pressures of eighth grade while coming to terms with his grandfather's decline and his own feelings of shame.
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