
Reach for this book when your child is struggling to navigate the emotional fallout of a divorce, specifically if their frustration is manifesting as outbursts at school or difficulty making friends. The story follows Alexander, a boy with a short fuse whose world is upended when his parents separate. It honestly depicts the shame of social isolation and the regret that follows a big mistake, while pivoting toward a path of recovery. Parents will find this an invaluable resource because it goes beyond just a story: it provides a mindful self-compassion toolbox to help children build inner strength and emotional regulation. Best suited for ages 7 to 11, it is a practical guide for families undergoing transition who need to normalize big feelings and teach resilient social skills.
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Sign in to write a reviewAlexander makes an 'awful big mistake' at school that initially hurts others.
The book addresses divorce and school-based bullying directly. The approach is secular and psychological, focusing on mindfulness and self-compassion. The resolution is realistic and hopeful, emphasizing that while mistakes have consequences, repair is possible through consistent effort.
An elementary student (3rd to 5th grade) who is prone to emotional outbursts or "explosive" anger, particularly those dealing with the secondary stresses of a family split or a move to a new school.
Parents should preview the mindfulness toolbox at the end of the book. It is beneficial to read this book together to model the breathing and self-kindness exercises mentioned in the text. A parent might notice their child becoming increasingly withdrawn after a move or separation, or perhaps receive a phone call from a teacher about an uncharacteristic aggressive incident or social conflict.
Younger children (7-8) will focus on the concrete actions Alexander takes to get friends back. Older children (9-11) will resonate more with the internal struggle of the negative mental playlist and the concept of self-compassion.
Unlike many divorce books that focus solely on the family dynamic, this book bridges the gap between home changes and school performance, specifically offering evidence-based mindfulness tools as a solution for social repair.
Alexander is navigating life after his parents announce their divorce. Struggling with a short fuse and negative thoughts (his internal playlist), he makes a major social error at his new school that leads to bullying and the loss of his friends. Paralyzed by the fear of embarrassing his parents, he initially hides the situation. Once he confesses, his parents help him develop a unique quest and a set of mindfulness tools to repair his reputation and manage his emotions.
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