
Reach for this book when your child is struggling with playground politics, feeling misunderstood, or having difficulty seeing why a friend acted out. It is a vital tool for those moments when a child feels like a 'victim' or a 'villain' in a social conflict and needs help navigating the messy middle ground of human emotions. The story follows best friends Ava and Sofia through a realistic bullying incident, but with a unique twist: the story is told twice, once from each girl's perspective. By exploring both sides of the same conflict, the book teaches children ages 5 to 7 that everyone has internal feelings and external pressures that drive their behavior. It moves beyond simple labels of good and bad to foster genuine compassion and perspective-taking. It is an ideal choice for parents who want to move past 'don't be a bully' and toward 'how do we understand one another?' through practical social-emotional skills.
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Sign in to write a reviewThe 'bully' is shown to have valid feelings, which might be complex for very young children.
The book deals with bullying and social exclusion in a secular, direct, and realistic manner. The resolution is hopeful and focuses on restoration rather than punishment.
A first or second-grader who is experiencing 'relational aggression' or feeling left out at school. It is perfect for the child who is quick to judge others' intentions as purely negative.
This book can be read cold, but parents should be ready to pause between the two halves of the story to ask the child what they think the other character is feeling before the reveal. The trigger is usually a child coming home crying because a friend was mean, or a teacher mentioning that the child is being exclusionary or 'bossy' on the playground.
Five-year-olds will focus on the concrete actions (who said what), while seven-year-olds will begin to grasp the cognitive dissonance of how two people can experience one event so differently.
Unlike many 'anti-bullying' books that personify the bully as a one-dimensional antagonist, this book uses a dual-narrative structure to humanize both parties, making empathy a lived experience for the reader rather than just a definition.
The book follows a singular conflict between two friends, Ava and Sofia, involving a situation that borders on bullying. The narrative structure is the highlight: the first half of the book presents the events from Sofia's point of view, and the second half retells the exact same sequence from Ava's perspective. This allows readers to see how a single action can be perceived as an intentional hurt by one person while being fueled by insecurity or misunderstanding by the other.
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